DON'T END UP IN VIRTUAL HEARTBREAK - EMPLOY THESE STRATEGIES TO BETTER YOUR CHANCES IN ONLINE DATING!
Time to throw a statistic at you – about one in five relationships start online so if you’re considering meeting single women online then you aren’t alone and it’s only getting bigger. These aren’t the newspaper personals from the dark and distant past – online dating is rapidly becoming the mode that busy single folks are using to meet other singles.
To maximize your chances in meeting and keeping Ms. Right I’ve outlined 3 strategies you can use right now so you get the maximum amount of attention for yourself.
3 MUST HAVE STRATEGIES TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN MEETING SINGLE WOMEN ONLINE #1
Hire A Pro
Forget about the selfies – forget about the bathroom pic – and don’t ever do a shirtless photo. You want two professional shots (yes, it will cost you but it’s worth it to stand out from the other guys you’re competing against).
Professional photo one should be in business attire while the second features you in more casual clothes. A professional photographer will make sure to put you in the best lighting, suggest clothes that bring out the best in you and help pose you for maximum results (so, even if your iPhone takes great photos and your buddy will take your photos do they REALLY know how to pose you for maximum benefit? I think not!). They are professionals for a reason and specialize in “getting your good side” so hire them and pay them.
You are up against hundreds if not thousands of other guys (depending on your city size) and with a millisecond click of the mouse she can be onto the next profile. Make sure yours stands out and you put your best foot forward so that she stops and thinks “who’s that?”
3 MUST HAVE STRATEGIES TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN MEETING SINGLE WOMEN ONLINE #2
Hold Things Back
When I’m giving dating and relationship advice to men via my website and book I always tell them to be a MYSTERY – in other words don’t let everything about yourself hang out there. Getting two professional photographs is only half the battle – you have to then say enough on your profile to interest her without giving her the world. Remember, you’re a mouse click from failure so don’t give her a reason to click to the next guy and forget you.
Don’t ever talk about negatives – she doesn’t care that you couldn’t get the parakeet to say your name when you were five. Don’t write a book – if it looks like it’s going to be too much for her to read then she probably won’t read it – get to your point quickly. Don’t write a laundry list of what you’re looking for and never brag. Really you should write something along these lines:
I’m looking for a self-reliant woman that would like to get to know me slowly over coffee – I promise to make you laugh a few times, I won’t text you 10,000,000 times after our first meeting and I understand the concept of opening your door.
You see where I’m building this? You want her to be attracted to you via your great photos in strategy one and then when she’s intrigued enough to read about you make sure you give her enough that she’s interested but not too much that she writes you off.
Remember this concept in online dating – NOTHING HAPPENS IN CYBERSPACE except for you to move it to the real world ASAP. You cannot date her online and you’re not looking for an email pal – you want to move along to get her out with you as soon as you can to see if you have actual chemistry with her.
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3 MUST HAVE STRATEGIES TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN MEETING SINGLE WOMEN ONLINE #3
You Can’t Just Say Anything To Her!
All of this is great but it is likely you will be contacting the ladies yourself – although sometimes if they’re REALLY INTERESTED they contact you first – that’s always a good position to be in. Regardless your strategy should always be to make her comfortable enough to meet you – that means to:
*Never be creepy – don’t talk about sex, how hot she is, etc. etc.
*Instead, talk about her interests, what she likes, her hobbies, anything where you meet her on an intellectual level.
*Don’t be afraid to be humorous with her – don’t force it but if something she says in an email or her profile strikes you as funny, go with it.
*Get a meeting with her after about 3-4 emails back and forth – and don’t email her continuously for weeks on end – you need to move this to the real world ASAP.
The bottom line is that you want to get her comfortable enough with you to meet you for coffee or a drink – and always be very respectful when asking. You don’t ever want to creep her out because again, you’re a mouse click from getting flushed!
After building some rapport with her be direct when asking to meet her:
Let’s see if we have real world chemistry – you open to meeting for an hour at <NAME POPULAR COFFEE SHOP/RESTAURANT/BAR HERE – SOMETHING EVERYONE IN YOUR TOWN KNOWS AND IS COMFORTABLE WITH>. I promise to make you laugh a few times!
If she doesn’t want to meet, freaks out, makes an excuse then get used to saying the word NEXT in your head – just as there are hundreds if not thousands of guys that YOU’RE up against you have to flip the script and think “she’s up against hundreds if not thousands of other women vying for MY attention.”
If you employ the strategies above you’ll be that much closer to meeting and keeping Ms. Right
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