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Dating Women Podcast #154:
What if she's talking conservatively on her dating profile but her photos are anything but conservative?
Dating Women Podcast #155 (released Saturday, 10/20/18 at Midnight Eastern):
It's good that she blew you off!!! Find out why.
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I’m stuck in a very confusing situation. I hope you can coach me.
I met Savannah this summer at the drag strip where she was working. Then I just happened to run into her at a concert when she was with her boyfriend. Since we were in a long drink line while waiting for the acts to go onstage, we got into an extended conversation. It turns out that for a number of reasons she was not happy with her boyfriend, who happened to be in the bathroom at the time. Anyway, that night when she got home, she called me and we talked until 4:30 in the morning.
After this conversation, we got together one night for dinner and drinks, then headed out to do some dancing. Every night since that concert we have talked late into the night on the phone. One night I invited Savannah to come with me and do a little shopping, and she confessed to me that she was falling for me. I asked her why she was still with her boyfriend if they were fighting so much. She explained that he helped her through a rough patch when there were deaths in her family, and that if the deaths hadn’t happened, I would be her new boyfriend.
Doc, Savannah then told me that she was afraid of the unknown with me and that’s why she hasn’t given her boyfriend his walking papers. As you can imagine, this has left me confused and wondering what to do. What would you do if you were in my boat?
Lyle - who would love to have her all to himself
I’ve read all your material and followed your techniques with much success these last couple of years. In all my flings and relationships until now, the woman had a higher Interest Level in me than I did in her, so I never had any problems. I was also the one who ended every relationship.
My current girlfriend of six months, Amber, 24, moved in with me three months ago. (I’m 31, by the way.) She’s the cousin of a good friend of mine, so when she needed a temporary place to stay, I offered my apartment. We were already romantically close, and since I know her family, there didn’t seem much harm in my offer. As a live-in girlfriend she is supportive, she cooks and cleans, and she follows me everywhere I go. She is always romantic when I want to be romantic, and she has very much made my apartment her home. She also talks about our future together. To remain a Challenge as best as I can, I always allow Amber lots of freedom and stay out of her way, which is hard because she is a solid “9” and gets a lot of attention from guys everywhere we go.
If the Bottom Line Factor states that “Only a woman’s actions truly reflect her feelings toward you,” then I have no worries. But there’s a problem.
Amber is super-friendly with everybody and can’t seem to say “no” to anyone. For instance, she is in regular communication with her ex-boyfriend of five years (she ended it about a year ago). She never talks to him or e-mails him while I am around, but I have tracking software on my home computer that registers all inbound and outbound communication. The guy loves her and wants her back, and although she doesn’t suggest they get back together, she is very affectionate with him and seems almost nostalgic. My guess is she still has feelings for him but knows that he is not “right” for her. By the way, they don’t see each other because he lives in another city.
What’s more, Amber also communicates with several other guys she’s met and dated over the years, some from as far back as college, and is flirty with all of them. Considering that she lives with me, I feel that this shows a deep lack of Integrity. What do you think, Doc? Is she using me while keeping her options open, or is this just how 24-year-old girls act nowadays? Or does Amber have a serious character flaw that would warrant me ending this relationship?
Martin - who is seriously confused by her facade and starting to feel used
DOC LOVE'S ANSWERS
It was a HUGE mistake to hang on the phone with Savannah until the wee hours. To you Psych majors, this is called SHOOTING YOUR WAD. Worse, what you’re doing is...
First of all, let me point out that coming into this thing with Amber you were definitely on the right track. And this is what I try and teach you guys: as long as her Interest Level is higher than yours, you’re not going to have any problems. But guess what? Most of the time it isn’t higher. Most of the time it’s the other way around, and you poor schmucks are facing mind games, head trips and that ugliest of all emotions, rejection. (And, Martin, the fact that you ended every relationship before Amber was a very good sign. That, or you dated a lot of Cocker Spaniels and Labrador Retrievers!)Now, let’s examine where you went off the track. The first time was letting Amber...
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