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In this week's post, a woman dares Doc to print her letter since she disagrees with him so he does and answers her!

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Dear Doc Love:

As a single, attractive female, I’ve been reading your articles, and I protest.

There are so many wonderful, beautiful and kind souled single women in San Diego County who would love to meet a great guy to date and have a real relationship with. But you are misleading men by telling them to play ‘hard to get’ and you’re only contributing to more animosity and misunderstanding between men and women. The last thing we need around here is more men who play games.

I took your principle: "Wait-a-Week-to-Call” to my women's support group and they all just laughed! "What is he trying to do, teach men to be conniving women?" "That's what our mothers told US to do!"

Teaching men to use a "strategy" takes all of the real excitement out of dating and meeting someone of real substance. If you told a real man to use manipulative strategies as you recommend, he'd laugh in your face. Real men go after what they want and don't have to play passive-aggressive games. Guys who take your advice must be real losers anyway!

If I met a man I was attracted to at a party and he took my number and didn’t call me for a week, I'd think he was going through his list and I happened to be the booby prize because no one else wanted him.

A real man would call the next day and at least show he was interested as soon as possible. Then he could make the date for next week or whenever. But at least he was manly enough to be Tarzan to my Jane. If he wants to be Jane, then I wouldn't want him anyway!

If you really want a kindred spirit to love and be with, then forget the contrived strategies and step up to the plate!

We need some REAL men around here.

LeeAnn - who says: “Print this if you dare!”

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Dear LeeAnn,

I must thank you, LeeAnn, because you have provided us with yet another great example of why you can’t find out what women want by asking them. If you and your girlfriends were able to be truly objective about your inner needs and desires, you wouldn’t be trying to make a mockery of my “wait a week to call” strategy.

LeeAnn, imagine that you had gone to a cocktail party where you had met a successful, handsome gentleman who was a dead ringer for (insert an actor you have HIGH INTEREST LEVEL in here). The two of you made a nice connection and he asked you for your phone number.

Then you found yourself thinking about him, hoping that he would call to ask you out. Would you blow him off when he called you seven days later? Or would you be delighted that he finally called, and be eager to see him? Would you say to him: “I’m sorry guy, you waited more than 24 hours to call me and that means that you aren’t a real man so no thank you.” Give me a break!

The truth is that you’d be saying, “Yes, I’d love to go out with you!” And why would you be saying yes so readily and enthusiastically? Because you had, what I call, High Interest Level. Your Interest Level in him was 79% or so from the get go. But when he waited a week to call you, your Interest Level moved even higher into the low 80’s.

You see, LeeAnn, in my hypothetical scenario, you already liked him a lot, but when he took his time to call you, you perceived him as an even more intriguing guy who has a full life and isn’t desperately hoping to find some woman to make him happy. Someone who is a REAL -- “real man.” 

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Yes LeeAnn, you’d see him as a Challenge. And whether you know it or not, that’s what you respond to on an emotional level - a guy who is a Challenge. Not some needy, eager to please, politically correct nincompoop who is seeking your approval by calling you the next day.

If I had an opportunity to use my interviewing techniques on you, I’m certain that I’d discover that the last guy you fell in love with was, in some fundamental way, a Challenge. Hopefully it wasn’t a married man who saw you only twice a month.

You and your girlfriends say that I’m teaching men to be conniving women. Well, I couldn’t have said it better my self. If fathers would teach their sons to be a little more conniving, then the war of the sexes might be a bit more of a fair fight instead of manslaughter.

But your mothers were wasting their time teaching you to be conniving. As a woman, it’s already built into you. Women have an innate understanding of men, but men don’t understand women at all. Or as Jack Nicholson once said: “ Women, they’re smarter than us, they’re stronger than us, and they don’t play fair.” But when my guys use “The System”, they’re finally able to level the playing field.

And you think that my strategies are manipulative? I’ll tell you LeeAnn. If any of my guys has the self-sabotaging habit of calling a potential date 24 hours after getting her number, then I must break him of that habit. He needs to learn to use a success strategy rather than a failure strategy, so I give him rules and principles to follow. Call it manipulative if you like, but you do yourself and all men a great disservice by disparaging my advice.

I’ll agree with you on one thing. My philosophy is passive/aggressive but only in a positive sense. I show men that there is a time to be aggressive and there is a time to be passive. A man takes aggressive action by, for instance, being sure to always ask a woman whom he’s interested in for her phone number. Then he’s passive when he waits a week to call her, and then he’s aggressive again when he calls her for the date. But he doesn’t rush in like a dog in heat.

Remember, guys, women are dying to chase you, they just don’t realize it.