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Dating Women Advice: No Country For Old Men


​(Editors note: this article first appeared in the Doc Love Club’s ADVANCED SYSTEM CLASS in 2011 & is one of 80+ ADVANCED SYSTEM CLASS articles available in MASTERY IV)

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​Older Man Dating Younger Women: Rush Limbaugh, Howard Stern, Don Imus (among others) would certainly dispute the title of this article.

Mr. Limbaugh’s lovely wife is 33 and Mr. Limbaugh’s what? 59? About 26 years her senior, Limbaugh makes millions of dollars EVERY year- she loves him.

Howard Stern (for years) has played the raunchy morning jock, but always faithful to his first wife, well, exit first wife (with a hefty settlement) and enter Mr. Stern’s beautiful young Barbie Doll wife, he’s also worth millions and she loves him.

Rich older guy marries beautiful young trophy wife, nothing new.

What does rich older guys marrying trophy wives have to do with THE SYSTEM?

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First, we all agree that Imus, Limbaugh and Stern (if they were regular guys) would not stand out in a large crowd of guys. IE, women would not flock to them- hardly.

We could also say that if these older gents’ current wives were hooked up to lie detectors and asked “did your husband’s money have anything to do with your marrying him? If they said “it didn’t have to do anything with why I married him,” the needle would jump like there was a 9.4 earthquake on the Richter scale- or how about asking her the question “is he the most physically attractive man you’ve ever been attracted to? There goes that needle again….

The radio guy Don Imus jokes about marrying a younger woman. He makes himself the butt of a lot of jokes about the older man married to the younger woman. It’s an act, obviously.

One thing those older rich guys have in common, they all have huge egos.

Like THE SYSTEM says, “put your ego aside.” These rich older guys with the young wives never do.

All of the women that have married (or are about to) older rich men have at least one thing in common. Their rich husband’s INTEREST LEVEL is higher than theirs. Oh, they have high INTEREST LEVEL to marry for security, IE- money, but romantic love? Uh-uh.


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Limbaugh, Imus and Stern have A LOT of marriages between them.

They can twist it, rationalize it, and joke about it, whatever. The simple fact is that they bought their wives.

The odds that they stay married to their current trophy wives? Less than 50/50.

Guys, whether you have millions of dollars, or not, if your INTEREST LEVEL is higher than the INTEREST LEVEL of your girlfriend, fiancé or wife, you’re just a stand in.

Limbaugh, Imus or Stern may be in control of their wife’s daily life, but they’re not in control of their hearts, oh if they knew what their young wives were really thinking, these huge egos would take a hit- harder than NFL Linebackers deliver on Sundays.

Why do they keep marrying young attractive women? Because they’re young and attractive – it’s why older men start dating younger women to begin with. They reject women their own age. Why? Because older women remind them of themselves.

Picture a woman that looks exactly like Stern, Limbaugh, or, are you ready? Don Imus! Oh Lord….

Guys, let me say it again “if you marry a woman with low INTEREST LEVEL in you, get ready for the pain.”

Let me revise the title of this article from- “No Country For Old Men” to “No Country For Foolish Old Men.”

They can afford to be foolish and play the fool, don’t you do it. There are already too many children being raised in single parent homes.

Note, one quick piece of advice for older guys married to younger women, when you jump out of bed and have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night (and you will)- make sure you cover that elephant arse you have, your young wife has enough to deal with.

Hi Garry,


As soon as you began having trouble with your wife, you didn’t have “The System” overnighted to you (or buy my immediate downloads - ELECTRONIC SYSTEM or SYSTEM AUDIO). Why not? Do you realize the terrible anguish you could have saved yourself? All that time Donatella’s interest was going from 90%...to 88%...to 85%...to 82%, etc. And as most American men do, you noticed it finally when it hit 60% or 57% or somewhere in that area. “The System” says that this woman probably once loved you. You’ve been with her for 15 years, and she probably loved you for eight to 10 years of that time. After that, because you took her for granted, her Interest Level began to drop.


And let me explain something to you. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 100% to 49% in an hour, or overnight, even though that’s the man’s perception of what’s going on. No, like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “It takes time and negligence to erode.” That’s why if you’d have memorized my materials, when it went from 91% to 89% you would have known to start getting into my MAINTENANCE PROGRAM, which will secure the woman wanting to stay with you forever. But like most men in America, you knew how to get her, but you didn’t know how to keep her. That’s why a majority of women recently reported in a national survey that they wouldn’t marry the same guy again. But since you didn’t have my book, what’s happened to you now is predictable.


You might have thought this situation was going to improve on its own, Garry, but when Interest Level goes 60%...58%..56%...54%, it’s like an airplane going down. It won’t pull up by itself. Like my cousin General Love says, “It just crashes and burns.” And that’s what happened with your wife. You murdered her Interest Level through your deportment.


So when your relationship with Donatella took another dive, why didn’t you Google a love doctor for some advice? The question to ask was, why is this woman so turned off when for eight or 10 years she idolized me? Dude, a good salary and taking care of your family financially doesn’t equate to romance to a female.


Your wife had been showing you for a long time that you were miles apart. Did she really have to verbalize it and tell you she no longer loved you? You’ve been with her for a long time, and when she finally said it after a deterioration of five or six years, it was only then that you sat up and took notice? Are you blind? And to you Psych majors, when she tells you that she no longer loves you, you are OUT.


Now let me explain something else to you. When Interest Level consistently drops, it’s NEVER temporary. It’s only temporary until she leaves. Then it’s final,


Now you’re in a fatal depression, pal. If you’d been studying my book all along, it would have made the pain more bearable. So the first thing you have to do now is have “The System” OVERNIGHTED to you and MEMORIZE it (or get an immediate download - SYSTEM AUDIO or ELECTRONIC SYSTEM). Because when it comes to women, you are absolutely clueless, even after you’ve lived with this woman for so long. Garry, I know more about your wife than you do and I’ve never even met the woman. And that’s very sad.


Then, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You have to suck it up.” When Donatella calls, be polite, don’t talk about your relationship, ask her how much money she needs, send her a check and ask her if there’s anything more you can do for her. Maybe, with time, she’ll meet you for coffee, then maybe a dinner date, then maybe you’ll move into getting her back into the house. Try to talk to your kids as much as possible. You’ll have to apologize for blowing up and making a fool of yourself because when you did that, it only reinforced your wife’s low Interest Level. Because what she said to herself was that she didn’t realize that her husband was so lacking in Self-Control!


But no matter what, you still need my book. You need to find out where you went wrong with your wife. Like I said earlier, you’re clueless.


Whether or not Donatella has found someone else is beyond your control. So don’t make the problem even worse than it is. Get “The System,” study it like heck, and we’ll do our best to get her back.


Donatella didn’t throw away anything over nothing. You stopped romancing your wife and took her for granted. You never told her she was Beautiful. You didn’t treat her like a woman. If you did, she would still be all over you.


Remember, guys: to keep your wife in love with you, you have to date her.

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  • DLstudent says:

    It’s true. Younger women are beautiful, but the odds of a successful long term relationship are low. What these rich older men should be doing is looking for slightly older women who are physically fit or stick to dating and avoid long term relationships especially marriage.

  • Stan says:

    I really appreciate your sense of Morality, indicative of a high level of Spiritual Maturity, unlike that guy (CW) who talks about getting laid being the end all. He preaches tolerating women who come in and out of our lives, as long as getting laid is the end result. No wonder… he mentioned that his mom was a roller coaster of rejection/acceptance, etc.

    He never mentions the pandemic of HPV, Hep. C, etc, that the National Institute of Health is barely starting to admit and the media will not talk about. Beyond pharmaceutical commercials, people don’t know much. I wouldn’t be surprised if half the single women have a virus they can’t get rid of (and they mutute rapidly into more deadly forms). One of 3 men will get Prostate Cancer (that # is rapidly increasing). Now, the NIH is admitting that PC is usually caused by HPV.

    Stan – who requires a comprehensive medical report

  • Johnny says:

    Rush is 66 or 67….

  • Allan says:

    Any man who marries any woman in the USA is a MADMAN in this divorce culture. Why risk it if it has at least a 50% chance of failure? It’s insane that you are still pushing marriage on men. Stop it. Marriage is for idiots.

    • DocLove says:

      I’m not pushing marriage Allan – each guy needs to decide if that’s right for them or not – I don’t tell guys what to do. I am giving guys guideposts on how to think about marriage if they want to get married, however, so they maximize their chances for success (and yes, there are many guys that want to get married and there are many guys that are happily married). By the way, the divorce rate for the general population is 50% but I’m betting it’s much much much lower for a guy that follows https://www.doclove.com/system

  • Zach says:

    I have been through the system, and may be off base but this is the conclusion I’ve come too: Basically to get a woman to love a man, a man cannot be himself, he always has to be playing games and continually on guard. That’s a hell of a lot of work for not much certainty. I guess it also makes me think that man has a whole cannot be liked for who they are, they have to put on an act.

    • DocLove says:

      I think that’s the wrong take. Let’s take your career for example. Do you talk to your coworkers like you talk to your best friend? Do you talk to your boss however you want? No, there’s a work version of you because if you brought some of the personal stuff you have into it, like with all of us, it wouldn’t fly at work. That’s all I’m saying with https://www.doclove.com/system – like you figure out a way to maximize what you’re doing with your career by understanding your do’s and don’t’s you’re doing the same with women. I’ve interviewed THOUSANDS of women and what I’ve boiled down in https://www.doclove.com/system are qualities that they say turn them on and turn them off.

      YES, you will continue to BE YOURSELF – you won’t all of a sudden become a boisterous life of the party type of guy just to attract her if you’re really a laid back type but what I do coach you to do is understand what leads to success with women and what leads to failure.


      It’s not a game – it’s a way of going about things to maximize the good stuff she sees and enhance that while minimizing the bad qualities that would end things with her.

      Thanks for writing.

  • Talleyrand says:

    I am 54 years old and I sometimes have young women rubbing against me in certain scenarios. BUT that’s all they’re good for, like a quicky, not for long term. Talking to them is like talking to the wall because of our generation gap. I think 15 year younger is the max for a man.

    • DocLove says:

      Thanks for weighing in – we find it’s about 10 years since women are usually 10 years ahead of guys in terms of dating maturity (IE, a 40 year old woman is good for a 50 year old man) but everyone is different and if 15 works for you then that works. The “quicky” you talk about can have it’s own set of problems, though: https://www.doclove.com/2015/09/04/doc-love-on-sex/

  • Dave says:

    Late to the discussion guys, so I have a former girlfriend from 10years ago who is 29 and is now with a 44 year old man, he’s not a millionaire or even a six figure income earner and isn’t exactly the most attractive guy in the world to put it lightly. He’s got grey and white hair and make pattern baldness and is very thin. 5’9”-5’11” 130something is guess. She was 4’9” 120-125lbs when we dated and is now 4’9” 160lbs.
    Any explanation on this or input?
    She’s got a reputation for dating a lot of jerks and mean spirited guys since me, most who are basically the anti thesis of the System save for being confident to the point of being hotheaded know it all, arrogant, hubristic, cocky and egotistical pricks. I’ve long moved on and long gave up any hope of ever winning her back. I don’t even want her back but find her an interesting “study” for the System and this article.
    The new bf lasted so far much longer with her than I did back before I had the System, I just don’t quite get it. He began as a “work mate”, “guy friend”, but moved into the big category. He’s got sons her age and is nearly old enough to be her dad.

    • DocLove says:

      I refer to this as the BOTTOM LINE factor which is a cornerstone of https://www.doclove.com/system – there could be a million reasons why she is attracted to guys that don’t follow my materials and are way older than her but here’s the deal, THE SYSTEM is all about efficiency and once you BOTTOM LINE that she’s not going to be Ms. Right you move on. People are too complex to figure out – a common phrase we all utter is “why did I do that?” So, if you have 24/7 access to your thoughts and you can’t figure out why you did what you did from time to time how can you figure someone else out – you can’t – the idea with https://www.doclove.com/system is to QUICKLY RECOGNIZE when you have something that’s going nowhere and be efficient with your limited time by moving onto someone that will be more suited for the long haul. Thanks for writing.

  • DLstudent says:

    I’m just getting back into the dating scene after being married for a long long time.I was the one who initiated the divorce. It’s better to be the dumper than the dumpee. That’s for sure.I’m 59 and I will date any girl of legal age up to my age if she shows me buying signals, gives me her number, and shows up for the date. I also have to like how she looks to even get something started. Like DocLove says, every girl is practice for the next one.

  • DLstudent says:

    Hi Doc, I’ve been a loyal student for probably 15+ years. I have a hard copy of The System that is all marked up and falling apart. I have hard copies of Mastery 1,2,3. I read these books every day and listen to your radio show excerpts weekly. I work 2nd shift which makes it impossible to call in. I do have an interesting story. I agree with you about the 10-15 year thing as giving men the best odds. I know the odds are against me whenever I ask a much younger woman for her number. I don’t take rejection personally. I know going into it that even if the youner woman falls for me, I might have to cut her loose later if she wants marriage and kids, for her own sake.

  • DLstudent says:

    Hi Doc, I’m trying to get a first shift job where I work- for several reasons including the greater abundance of girls there. I might even apply outside the company for a first shift job because I’m finding it much harder to date while working 2nd shift. I’ve already got some interesting stories and it’s only been 2 weeks back in the dating game. I’ve been preparing myself for years through studying the System and working out at the gym before I asked for my divorce from a Loooong time marriage. I’ve been in Doc Love’s “Love-Ninja-Warrior-Jedi-Training-Camp.” I have plenty of book knowledge. Now, it’s time for the real world experience of putting this knowledge to the test. So far,so good. Once I get a 1st shift gig, I will call the radio show and probably become a Doc Love Club member. Thanks!

  • Jasper says:

    “make sure you cover that elephant arse you have…”

    That’s quite the assumption to make of your older, loyal students. A generalization and a blanket statement. I don’t like it when Doc Love puts down his students like this. It reminds me of being a child and being constantly criticize and put down every five minutes by my own, and you can guess what happened to my self esteem when it comes to women, and my view of self overall. At least, Jeff is a lot more open to dating nowadays or should I say a kinder, gentler Doc Love which is what’s needed in this time of outright meanness, bullying and nastiness that’s propagated by our previous administration.

    • DocLove says:

      Hi Jasper,

      You have to realize when Doc wrote that he was poking fun at himself – I believe he was nearly 70 or a little over 70 when he wrote that so really this is more autobiographical than anything. If you knew Doc as I did he did not have a mean bone in his body – in fact he was quite humorous and always was quick with a kind word and a joke. He would use humor – even at his own expense – to open guys eyes to how their egos can fool them at times. I hope that helps you understand more of where Doc was coming from here – and you shouldn’t let this lower your self-esteem – Doc was referring to guys that had many decades in between themselves and their significant others – in Doc’s mind the real age range should be about 10-15 years which is completely reasonable.


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