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Dating Women Advice: Three Dating Tips For Men Over 40 and 50


It seems like all the dating tips for men are geared to the younger dudes – what about dating tips for men over 40 or dating tips for men over 50? The principles I’m about to give you are good for any age but your strategy has to be a bit different because your pool of available women without scars and baggage has decreased.

Let’s take for example when you were in your teens and 20’s – you likely knew a lot of single women that just wanted to have fun and it seemed like there was a lot of them around because if you’re like a typical guy there were. Now that you’re dating in your 40’s and 50’s you are likely seeing the same faces at work, at the gym and during your favorite happy hour stops and the women you are seeing could be unavailable, bitter or have baggage – that’s not to say that every woman is like that but just like you have buddies that have joined the “he man woman haters club” due to a bad experience, there are women like that too.

The paragraph above basically says that your options shrink as you get older plus if you’re like most folks in today’s economy your time has shrunk too (but if you’re a successful guy who has retired in your 40’s or 50’s – bravo – you’ll have more time to implement the strategies below – and if you have limited time – well, the strategies are just for you).

As a guy dating over 40 or 50 you have to be very efficient in your search. First of all if you’re not finding the right women for you right now then STOP doing what you’re doing. Running into the same faces over and over again? Then it’s time to change up your routine.


Get Online ASAP

At this point in the article you could call it “online dating tips for men” because I’m going to tell you to go online for maximum efficiency. If you’re a guy over 40 or 50 you can remember a time when the personal ads were in a newspaper (younger guys reading this can’t fathom what a personal ad is and they’re rapidly having trouble with what a newspaper is).

Do you recall how you felt about guys you heard were using personal ads? Yeah, I bet it wasn’t flattering. TAKE ALL THAT OUT OF YOUR HEAD because online dating is not the personal ads moved online – it’s a way for you to efficiently get through hundreds (depending on your city) eligible women in an afternoon.

One out of five relationships start online and the number is only growing. You have, eHarmony,, Zoosk, an app for your smartphone called Tinder and so much more. My #1 recommendation of a dating tip for men over 40 and 50 is to get online.

Call my dating women radio show if you want advice from me on this – I take your calls every week (get the #'s and details by clicking this link).

(By the way, if you can't wait to talk to me on my radio show or you don't want to go public then order my phone coaching here).


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Speed Dating

The other thing I suggest is speed dating – if you’re not sure what speed dating is just plug that into your favorite search engine. You get anywhere from 3-8 minutes with a lady in your age range before you move onto the next one – if you both like each other then the organizer of the event (usually held in a nice bar/restaurant) will give each of you the contact information of the other and then it’s on you.

A variation of speed dating becoming more and more popular is "Lock & Key Events" which I covered on one of my podcasts here.


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Think Like A Great Salesman

You see where I’m going with all of this? Why do you think I suggest online dating and speed dating as my 2 best ways to meet women efficiently? Because my dating tips for men are always sales-based. You want as many QUALITY LEADS as you can get – like if you were selling cars. You wouldn’t want to get in front of a bunch of people that have just signed an auto lease or those that had terrible credit, right? You want to be in front of as many people as you can that have the means to buy now and are ready to buy now.

When you do online dating and speed dating at least you know the women there are “ready to buy” – like you they’re online or at the speed dating event because they’re looking for a relationship (or at least some of them are).

Of course all the leads in the world won’t matter if you blow them – finding where to meet women open to a relationship is one thing but making sure you go out with them and then figuring out which ones are right for you is another.

By the way, if you want a GREAT SERIES on how to think like a salesman I have a 5-parter for you that is exclusively available in the Doc Love Club.  If you want the first article of this series sign up for my FREE 7-day dating course and you'll get that on day one as well as a TON MORE (click here to see all the goodies available FOR FREE!)

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Hi Garry,


As soon as you began having trouble with your wife, you didn’t have “The System” overnighted to you (or buy my immediate downloads - ELECTRONIC SYSTEM or SYSTEM AUDIO). Why not? Do you realize the terrible anguish you could have saved yourself? All that time Donatella’s interest was going from 82%, etc. And as most American men do, you noticed it finally when it hit 60% or 57% or somewhere in that area. “The System” says that this woman probably once loved you. You’ve been with her for 15 years, and she probably loved you for eight to 10 years of that time. After that, because you took her for granted, her Interest Level began to drop.


And let me explain something to you. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 100% to 49% in an hour, or overnight, even though that’s the man’s perception of what’s going on. No, like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “It takes time and negligence to erode.” That’s why if you’d have memorized my materials, when it went from 91% to 89% you would have known to start getting into my MAINTENANCE PROGRAM, which will secure the woman wanting to stay with you forever. But like most men in America, you knew how to get her, but you didn’t know how to keep her. That’s why a majority of women recently reported in a national survey that they wouldn’t marry the same guy again. But since you didn’t have my book, what’s happened to you now is predictable.


You might have thought this situation was going to improve on its own, Garry, but when Interest Level goes 60%...58%..56%...54%, it’s like an airplane going down. It won’t pull up by itself. Like my cousin General Love says, “It just crashes and burns.” And that’s what happened with your wife. You murdered her Interest Level through your deportment.


So when your relationship with Donatella took another dive, why didn’t you Google a love doctor for some advice? The question to ask was, why is this woman so turned off when for eight or 10 years she idolized me? Dude, a good salary and taking care of your family financially doesn’t equate to romance to a female.


Your wife had been showing you for a long time that you were miles apart. Did she really have to verbalize it and tell you she no longer loved you? You’ve been with her for a long time, and when she finally said it after a deterioration of five or six years, it was only then that you sat up and took notice? Are you blind? And to you Psych majors, when she tells you that she no longer loves you, you are OUT.


Now let me explain something else to you. When Interest Level consistently drops, it’s NEVER temporary. It’s only temporary until she leaves. Then it’s final,


Now you’re in a fatal depression, pal. If you’d been studying my book all along, it would have made the pain more bearable. So the first thing you have to do now is have “The System” OVERNIGHTED to you and MEMORIZE it (or get an immediate download - SYSTEM AUDIO or ELECTRONIC SYSTEM). Because when it comes to women, you are absolutely clueless, even after you’ve lived with this woman for so long. Garry, I know more about your wife than you do and I’ve never even met the woman. And that’s very sad.


Then, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You have to suck it up.” When Donatella calls, be polite, don’t talk about your relationship, ask her how much money she needs, send her a check and ask her if there’s anything more you can do for her. Maybe, with time, she’ll meet you for coffee, then maybe a dinner date, then maybe you’ll move into getting her back into the house. Try to talk to your kids as much as possible. You’ll have to apologize for blowing up and making a fool of yourself because when you did that, it only reinforced your wife’s low Interest Level. Because what she said to herself was that she didn’t realize that her husband was so lacking in Self-Control!


But no matter what, you still need my book. You need to find out where you went wrong with your wife. Like I said earlier, you’re clueless.


Whether or not Donatella has found someone else is beyond your control. So don’t make the problem even worse than it is. Get “The System,” study it like heck, and we’ll do our best to get her back.


Donatella didn’t throw away anything over nothing. You stopped romancing your wife and took her for granted. You never told her she was Beautiful. You didn’t treat her like a woman. If you did, she would still be all over you.


Remember, guys: to keep your wife in love with you, you have to date her.

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  • Nino says:

    Hey Doc, Caprice just got dumped by her boyfriend of 2 years this past week and she is really “torn up” according to her brother in law whom im friends with(I didnt inquire he just told me). My question is should i wait till she “heals” to ask her out? If so how long? Thanks for your valuable time and your wisdom. Your Spartan in training – Nino

    • DocLove says:

      You always ask for the number if you have a shot – because while she’s “healing” some other guy that has no idea she just broke up with someone asks her out and they go. You never know until you try and THE SYSTEM ( put sales into dating where we say that we pursue and try to close all leads. I will say that this is a lower percentage play and there is no way you should just concentrate on her – but then again you shouldn’t concentrate on any one girl until you have HIGH INTEREST LEVEL in one and she gives you NO RED FLAGS for 10-12 dates and becomes your girlfriend. So, go for it but keep on pursuing other women – until you find Ms. Right!

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