IS IT BAD HE CAN ONLY SEE HER ONCE A WEEK? NO, IT'S GREAT!
THE SYSTEM says that CHALLENGE IS THE KEY TO WOMEN and our reader is stressed that he can only see his girl once a week but you'll find out why that's a GREAT thing instead of a bad thing like he thinks it is.
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I’ve been dating Georgina, a very Beautiful, sweet and extremely sexy woman for three months now. I have used “The System” to keep her interested and even watched all the Cary Grant movies you suggested. It’s important to note that she and I were schoolmates in junior high. She didn’t speak much English at the time and really wasn’t in my group of friends, but we’ve kept in periodic touch through Facebook over the last several years.
Anyway, we are both in our mid-forties now. Georgina has been married and has a seven-year-old son from a previous relationship. She’s allowed me to meet her son and we’ve even done a few “family” oriented things together. So on the surface everything seems like it’s going in the right direction. However, she is a very busy woman, running her own business, raising her son and taking care of her parents who live with her. Normally I would say no one is worth all that, but this woman really is something special. I want to see more of her, but it seems that once a week is all we can manage.
Any suggestions on how to move this relationship forward or should I simply let this amazing woman go and move on? I’m really torn. Help!
Nagib - who needs more of her
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Since we have no male role models today, that’s why I have you students study Cary Grant. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “That guy was the ultimate charmer.”
I don’t like that you’re doing family things with Georgina and her son. In fact, I don’t like that you’re meeting the child at all, and here’s why: the child is going to ask, “Hey, who is this guy? I have a real father – what’s this Nagib doing hanging around?” To you Psych majors, sons don’t understand their mothers dating other men when they have a real, biological father in the picture. The intrusion of a new man is difficult for young children. So you shouldn’t be meeting the kids until they are 18 years old and ready to leave the house. Instead of trying to manufacture a family atmosphere, I would have told Georgina that you didn’t want to confuse her seven-year-old son by hanging around. So that’s a mistake you’re making, Nagib, even if it doesn’t lower Georgina’s Interest Level.
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Now let me straighten you out on something. It’s TREMENDOUS that Georgina is such a busy woman. Most women want to see a guy three times a week, so you’ve caught a real break here, pal. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “This is a godsend!” So you’re looking at this situation all wrong. You’ve got a really good deal and don’t even realize it.
But here’s what disturbs me about this situation, guy. You haven’t told me a thing about Georgina’s Interest Level. How interested in you is she? Does she build you up? Does she compliment you? Does she touch you all the time? Do her eyes light up like the high beams on a car when she sees you?
Otherwise, seeing her once a week is perfect, my friend. That way you can live your own life. More importantly, a once-a-week dating schedule prevents you from messing things up and rushing straight into rejection, like most guys do.
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Since you already nag and berated the guy for going after a woman who has a kid, why are you telling him to have fun? He’s not gonna have fun with her anymore now that you brought up the brutal reality of the kid not looking up to him because he already has a father. Maybe telling him how to disappear forever should’ve been better. This is why I don’t bother dating, grim reality, and Doc Love’s brutal reality. Dating isn’t fun anymore.
Whoa, whoa, whoa – where did you get that I nagged and berated the guy? Are you reading the same article I wrote?
I told him that his situation is perfect, to enjoy the ride and be happy, etc.
The only things I cautioned him on had to do with the REALITY factor and 2 important things from that came up
1. Meeting her child only complicates things – he should be mindful of that and try to minimize/eliminate contact to stop confusing things
2. He has to make sure she has HIGH INTEREST LEVEL
So, tell me where do you get that I nagged and berated him? Can you explain that to me? There is no grim reality here Jasper – it’s actually a perfect situation if he can avoid complicating matters with her child and if she is into him.
Guys reading this – let me be clear – I think there are great women out there and that you can find them and have a great time with them. You have to be based in reality though and I’m here to coach you so that you maximize your chances with those great women that you encounter.
Remember guys https://www.doclove.com/system is POSITIVE and is your best chance to meet and keep Ms. Right.
It’s amazing Doc, I like your content.. With all due respect, but making people watch movies to learn “love skills” or “alpha male character” is outright insanity. Why not just be yourself and hook whoever is attracted to you and is attractive, it’s insulting as a guy, just as I am, I’m not fit to lure or attract a woman.
And what’s the end result after you tire of pretending?
Hi there Andy – and with all due respect back to you are you ever “yourself” when you are learning any new skill?
Do you think, when it comes to golf for example, that you’ll just get up there and swing and you’ll be enough – you don’t have to pretend to be a good golfer – you’ll just be one. Of course not, you practice, take lessons and get better!
Do you ignore everything on the job and just “wing it” figuring you know everything there is to know on day 1 and that you never need to learn anything new on your job – or how to do it in the first place. Of course not, you are always striving to be better (or you should be).
I never tell guys to not be themselves – I tell them to be the BEST versions of themselves – just like a certain way you grip a golf club can be the difference between always shooting over 100 and being in the 80’s there’s a certain way you act and talk around your potential Ms. Right.
If you’re thinking “oh heck with all this – I’m just going to be myself” you’re getting your EGO in the way that’s LYING to you and saying “you are just fine the way you are – act anyway you want – if she doesn’t like you then forget her!”
Yes, yes, yes, if you are quiet by nature you won’t all of a sudden be the life of the party – nor should you try – but that doesn’t mean you won’t learn skills that are universal to getting women more interested – such as not being available all the time as https://www.doclove.com/system suggests (and if you don’t have THE SYSTEM – get it – there are so many nuggets of wisdom in there on how to meet and keep Ms. Right as I’ve interviewed THOUSANDS of women ASKING THEM WHY THEY KEPT ONE MAN VERSUS ANOTHER – what I LEARNED from women is what I COACH men to do!)
In conclusion Andy, you have the wrong take if you think I’m trying to turn you into somebody you’re not – I am, however, trying to get you to see REALITY and not do things that turn women off.
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Hey Doc Love, I’ve been a student of the system for 8 years now and it has been one of the best things I’ve ever done. I’m the one my friends come to now whenever they have relationship issues. I always refer them to The System and tell them in order to grasp what I’m telling them they MUST buy your book.
I had a question in regards to this article. If “Tom” has been dating “Caprice” for 60 days and her interest level is high and no major red flags, shouldn’t Tom meet her child and see if it’s something he truly wants? I would not consider this a group date, but since the child is part of the package deal just as Caprice’s attitude and flexibility is, I would think its a good idea they meet, even if Tom is being introduced only as a friend.
Yes, I understand if Tom is unsure about kids he should not date a woman with kids, but if he is open to it, then he should meet the child because not all children are the same. You mention in the beginning of the article not liking the fact he is meeting the child and at the end you state “So you can’t marry her until her son is out of the house, unless for some reason the kid falls in love with you and doesn’t mind you being the new daddy. ” So based on that, when is the right time to meet the child?
As in everything, there is always a lot of “what if” scenarios. In this “what if”, lets say Tom has been dating Caprice for a year not meeting the child, then it goes to 2 years and the time has come where the System has helped Tom find “the one” and now they are getting married. Do you suggest he keep away from the child? Or does Tom date Caprice for 11 years until the child is 18 before talking marriage?
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Dr. Laura actually advises you don’t date at all until your children are out of the house – I don’t go that far but you have to realize that when you add the dynamic of involving yourself with her children that many complications can arise from that. Does it work in certain cases? Yes, but I’m an odds maker and odds are it’s going to bring a lot of conflict. I would advise him to not talk marriage until her child (or children) are adults. It’s better for the children that way because it’s tough enough growing up but to add the pain of a divorce (or breakup) on top of trying to integrate with a complete stranger is sometimes too much for kids.