IS IT BAD HE CAN ONLY SEE HER ONCE A WEEK? NO, IT'S GREAT!
THE SYSTEM says that CHALLENGE IS THE KEY TO WOMEN and our reader is stressed that he can only see his girl once a week but you'll find out why that's a GREAT thing instead of a bad thing like he thinks it is.
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I’ve been dating Georgina, a very Beautiful, sweet and extremely sexy woman for three months now. I have used “The System” to keep her interested and even watched all the Cary Grant movies you suggested. It’s important to note that she and I were schoolmates in junior high. She didn’t speak much English at the time and really wasn’t in my group of friends, but we’ve kept in periodic touch through Facebook over the last several years.
Anyway, we are both in our mid-forties now. Georgina has been married and has a seven-year-old son from a previous relationship. She’s allowed me to meet her son and we’ve even done a few “family” oriented things together. So on the surface everything seems like it’s going in the right direction. However, she is a very busy woman, running her own business, raising her son and taking care of her parents who live with her. Normally I would say no one is worth all that, but this woman really is something special. I want to see more of her, but it seems that once a week is all we can manage.
Any suggestions on how to move this relationship forward or should I simply let this amazing woman go and move on? I’m really torn. Help!
Nagib - who needs more of her
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER IN A SECOND BUT FIRST...
Since we have no male role models today, that’s why I have you students study Cary Grant. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “That guy was the ultimate charmer.”
I don’t like that you’re doing family things with Georgina and her son. In fact, I don’t like that you’re meeting the child at all, and here’s why: the child is going to ask, “Hey, who is this guy? I have a real father – what’s this Nagib doing hanging around?” To you Psych majors, sons don’t understand their mothers dating other men when they have a real, biological father in the picture. The intrusion of a new man is difficult for young children. So you shouldn’t be meeting the kids until they are 18 years old and ready to leave the house. Instead of trying to manufacture a family atmosphere, I would have told Georgina that you didn’t want to confuse her seven-year-old son by hanging around. So that’s a mistake you’re making, Nagib, even if it doesn’t lower Georgina’s Interest Level.
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Now let me straighten you out on something. It’s TREMENDOUS that Georgina is such a busy woman. Most women want to see a guy three times a week, so you’ve caught a real break here, pal. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “This is a godsend!” So you’re looking at this situation all wrong. You’ve got a really good deal and don’t even realize it.
But here’s what disturbs me about this situation, guy. You haven’t told me a thing about Georgina’s Interest Level. How interested in you is she? Does she build you up? Does she compliment you? Does she touch you all the time? Do her eyes light up like the high beams on a car when she sees you?
Otherwise, seeing her once a week is perfect, my friend. That way you can live your own life. More importantly, a once-a-week dating schedule prevents you from messing things up and rushing straight into rejection, like most guys do.
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Instead of forcing this relationship forward or letting Georgina go, why not just enjoy the ride and be happy? Most guys would like to see their girlfriends only once a week so that they can be free to breathe! Again, you have a great deal here and you don’t realize it. And again, you never mention her Interest Level, which is a major concern. You’re leaving out the most important part, which is the WOMAN’S INTEREST LEVEL.
One advantage that you don’t seem to see, is that with Georgina enmeshed in a very busy life, you’re a NATURAL CHALLENGE. You don’t have to worry about creating Challenge because you see her so infrequently. This is the perfect relationship, dude! Think about it: what are you going to do, marry Georgina and adopt her kid? The boy already has a dad. Is the father in the background? Does he help out financially? You just have to understand that marrying Georgina is a PACKAGE DEAL since her child comes with her. So you can’t marry her until her son is out of the house, unless for some reason the kid falls in love with you and doesn’t mind you being the new daddy. This is the reality: a kid COMPLICATES. A kid doesn’t make anything easier.
Remember, guys: don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.