TOO CAUGHT UP IN STATS!
THE SYSTEM says you need a FEEL for what's going on when you're dating women and that means not to get too caught up in the stats like our reader does this week because he's completely missing the point.
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I have major questions related to “The System.”
I’ve been dating Monique for a few months now and I’m trying to read signs and Red Flags that she may or may not be sending. And whether or not I’m in danger of getting into trouble in our relationship. I want to be prepared no matter what happens.
I’ve always wanted to understand “The System” 100%, but right now I have some doubts. For instance, could you explain why the principle “One way or another, the woman always leaves first” is true?
In other parts of your book I’ve read, for example, about the 66%/24%/10% “rule” of ending marriages, where as you know only 10% is ascribed to the rare men who finally realize that they chose the wrong woman. I see a contradiction right there. If the woman always leaves first, how can 10% of all men come to a realization that they chose the wrong woman? I would really appreciate getting an explanation from you on this point.
I’m trying to figure out where I fit on this spectrum, and whether I’m going to get the ax from Monique in the long run or I should be the one doing the axing. And how do you really know when to pull the plug on a relationship? Is it ever better to let the woman do it, even if you know you want out?
Bing - who needs some remedial work
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER
It’s great that you’re trying to read signs and Red Flags. It shows that your antennae are up and you’re on the lookout for potential problems. On the other hand, I don’t want you to be paranoid about it. And let me also say that if you want to be prepared no matter what happens, you’re a smart man and you’re also a rarity.
What the rule in “The System” actually says is, “Ninety percent of the time she leaves first” and 10% of the time the guy leaves first. But everything being equal, it should be 50% women, 50% men doing the leaving first. But since the percentages aren’t equal, it demonstrates that women are much more in tune with their Interest Level than guys are. They are much more aware of how the other person feels, what they’re doing, what they might be thinking, etc.
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Let me explain the rule in more detail to you. Within the context of the 90/10 rule the final 10% is used as a generalization. Sixty-six percent of the time women file for divorce first, and the 24% rule says that the woman makes the guy so miserable that he ends up dropping her. But in reality, SHE is the one who set up the situation. (Marriage counselors are completely unaware of this reality, which goes beyond the mere statistics, and so they abide by the “66% of women file” number.) So when you add 24 and 66, that’s how you come up with 90%. The final 10% are the guys who actually throw up their hands and say, “Know what? I picked the wrong woman here.” And that’s how it all adds up to 100%.
Now let me get this straight: you’ve been dating Monique for a couple of months, everything is going fine, and all you want to talk about is how to get rid of her? Why? Why are you being so paranoid, Bing? Dude, if you go by “The System” and do everything right, she won’t want to drop you. WOMEN DROP YOU BECAUSE YOU MAKE MISTAKES. If you go by my book, you’re not going to make errors and you won’t have to worry about the “66/24/10” rule.
These articles give you a lot but there are key elements that you're missing if you don't have my book so if you really want to be successful with women you need THE SYSTEM. Still not convinced? Read my "YOU CHANGED MY LIFE" letters.
My friend, you know when to pull the plug on a relationship when you’re looking at a ton of Red Flags. And when you memorize my book, you know what Red Flags are and are able to recognize them a mile away. Like my cousin General Love says, “Most guys don’t even see the Red Flags. All they see is a beautiful face and a beautiful body and they run completely on their emotions.”
Is it better to let the woman get rid of you? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “Some guys don’t want to do their own dirty work.” I mentioned above that women sometimes set men up by making them miserable, and sometimes men do the same thing – but it’s a rarity compared to the women. The answer is yes, it’s sometimes better to let the woman dump you because if you let her think it’s her idea to break up, then you don’t have to feel any guilt and face any repercussions or vengeful actions. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “Forcin’ her to do the heavy liftin’ makes life a whole lot easier.”
Remember, guys: if you don’t want to do the dirty work, let her do it.