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Dating Women Advice: How To Overcome The Fear Of Rejection In Dating – 3 Strategies


In dating some men are paralyzed by the fear of rejection. They’d rather get a root canal with no pain killer than walk up and have her laugh at them (or whatever doomsday scenario they have in mind).

If you never try you can’t be rejected so you’re safe – but you’re extremely bored as well and missing out on a lot of fun. I’ll give you 3 strategies below to overcome it.


Calm Your Ego Down

If you’re scared of rejection I bet the last thing you think you have is a big ego – but you do. You don’t have that stereotypical “I am the man – everyone else is below me” type of persona but your big ego is out of control enough to try to protect you from the image it’s created and that image is so fragile it can’t withstand her staring off into space hoping you’ll go away when you’re trying to talk to her.

If you didn’t go over there in the first place your ego can keep the image of “I’m the man” going because it can create a scenario that you could have gone over, you could have gotten the number, you could have made her your wife – but you just chose not to.

You’re completely protected as you wander home alone – again – to fire up the PS4 – again.

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It Happens To Everyone

Rejection and failure are a natural offshoot of trying. I bet you stunk at your job when you first started – compared to where you are now. I imagine you made a ton of mistakes and looked stupid at times (at least in your mind) before you “got it” and became competent. Did you give up on trying to make a living? I am thinking you didn’t because you’re probably motivated to eat and pay your rent.

It’s the same when it comes to dating – how do you know what will or won’t work if you’re not in the mix trying out different strategies? Do you think you’ll get that great girl you’ve always wanted if you always sit on the sidelines all the time? How will you ever talk to her? How will you keep the conversation going or make her laugh or make her anticipate the next date with you if you’re so scared that she’s going to laugh in your face in the first 10 seconds of meeting her?

(If she does that then she was a tool you didn’t want anyway).

You might as well tell your ego now that you’re going to fall flat on your face, just like you did for anything you were new at – your job, a new sport or hobby, etc. – but that the only way to get better is to KEEP TRYING and throw out what doesn’t work as you hone in on what does.


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I Like Your Odds

You’re one guy that needs one girl – with about 7 billion or so homo sapiens running around – half of them being of the female gender, you are looking pretty good in the eyes of Las Vegas to meet someone that won’t reject you. Your deal is to stop head tripping yourself and remember that if I gave you 10 G’s to roll over and ask for the number, you could do it no problem. Why? Because you wouldn’t care about her laughing because you’d be laughing all the way to the bank as you lighten my wallet of 10 grand.

You have to take the same approach and not make it all personal – it’s a 5 minute max encounter with someone you probably won’t even remember in the next month and hey, when you wander over, she might be happy you did because she noticed you and wanted to meet you (at that point you’ll be happy you told your big ego to take a long walk off a short pier).

I’m gonna get all cliche on you now but there’s a reason these cliches find their way into our speech – because they are grounded in something true. “You will miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Your ego might feel all warm and fuzzy as it keeps feeding you “you’re the man” delusions but try to tell that to your brain that is absolutely sick of Call of Duty Friday night marathons.

Remember man – what you should be really afraid of is never getting off the dime to try because that almost assures you of a lonely life – and that would be a shame since you love women!

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Hi Garry,


As soon as you began having trouble with your wife, you didn’t have “The System” overnighted to you (or buy my immediate downloads - ELECTRONIC SYSTEM or SYSTEM AUDIO). Why not? Do you realize the terrible anguish you could have saved yourself? All that time Donatella’s interest was going from 90%...to 88%...to 85%...to 82%, etc. And as most American men do, you noticed it finally when it hit 60% or 57% or somewhere in that area. “The System” says that this woman probably once loved you. You’ve been with her for 15 years, and she probably loved you for eight to 10 years of that time. After that, because you took her for granted, her Interest Level began to drop.


And let me explain something to you. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 100% to 49% in an hour, or overnight, even though that’s the man’s perception of what’s going on. No, like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “It takes time and negligence to erode.” That’s why if you’d have memorized my materials, when it went from 91% to 89% you would have known to start getting into my MAINTENANCE PROGRAM, which will secure the woman wanting to stay with you forever. But like most men in America, you knew how to get her, but you didn’t know how to keep her. That’s why a majority of women recently reported in a national survey that they wouldn’t marry the same guy again. But since you didn’t have my book, what’s happened to you now is predictable.


You might have thought this situation was going to improve on its own, Garry, but when Interest Level goes 60%...58%..56%...54%, it’s like an airplane going down. It won’t pull up by itself. Like my cousin General Love says, “It just crashes and burns.” And that’s what happened with your wife. You murdered her Interest Level through your deportment.


So when your relationship with Donatella took another dive, why didn’t you Google a love doctor for some advice? The question to ask was, why is this woman so turned off when for eight or 10 years she idolized me? Dude, a good salary and taking care of your family financially doesn’t equate to romance to a female.


Your wife had been showing you for a long time that you were miles apart. Did she really have to verbalize it and tell you she no longer loved you? You’ve been with her for a long time, and when she finally said it after a deterioration of five or six years, it was only then that you sat up and took notice? Are you blind? And to you Psych majors, when she tells you that she no longer loves you, you are OUT.


Now let me explain something else to you. When Interest Level consistently drops, it’s NEVER temporary. It’s only temporary until she leaves. Then it’s final,


Now you’re in a fatal depression, pal. If you’d been studying my book all along, it would have made the pain more bearable. So the first thing you have to do now is have “The System” OVERNIGHTED to you and MEMORIZE it (or get an immediate download - SYSTEM AUDIO or ELECTRONIC SYSTEM). Because when it comes to women, you are absolutely clueless, even after you’ve lived with this woman for so long. Garry, I know more about your wife than you do and I’ve never even met the woman. And that’s very sad.


Then, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You have to suck it up.” When Donatella calls, be polite, don’t talk about your relationship, ask her how much money she needs, send her a check and ask her if there’s anything more you can do for her. Maybe, with time, she’ll meet you for coffee, then maybe a dinner date, then maybe you’ll move into getting her back into the house. Try to talk to your kids as much as possible. You’ll have to apologize for blowing up and making a fool of yourself because when you did that, it only reinforced your wife’s low Interest Level. Because what she said to herself was that she didn’t realize that her husband was so lacking in Self-Control!


But no matter what, you still need my book. You need to find out where you went wrong with your wife. Like I said earlier, you’re clueless.


Whether or not Donatella has found someone else is beyond your control. So don’t make the problem even worse than it is. Get “The System,” study it like heck, and we’ll do our best to get her back.


Donatella didn’t throw away anything over nothing. You stopped romancing your wife and took her for granted. You never told her she was Beautiful. You didn’t treat her like a woman. If you did, she would still be all over you.


Remember, guys: to keep your wife in love with you, you have to date her.

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