TWO LOVES OF HER LIFE???
So he is the love of her life but so was some other guy. Huh? How could she have TWO loves of her life? Oh man, this reader needs some SERIOUS HELP!
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I’m in a very tough situation, and I hope you can help.
I’ve been with Erica for a long time. We met 13 years ago when I was 19 and she was 18. She basically picked me up, we were intimate the first night, and we got very close for three months until I had to go back to college. We remained friends. When we were apart we each had other partners, but when we were together it was real love. I felt like we were always close spiritually and loved each other.
Erica got married when she was 26, and had a son who is now five. The marriage lasted only two years, then she met another guy who she called the love of her life, but couldn’t stay with him for various reasons. She moved back to Minnesota, where I live, a year ago. We started talking, then became intimate again but on a higher level this time. She got pregnant, but we lost the baby. Now she’s pregnant again with my daughter.
Doc, there have been Loyalty and faithfulness issues with Erica in the past. She cheated on her exes, sometimes with me. I know because Erica and I are very good friends and we talk openly about everything. Now I’m basically her husband without being legally married. I support her and my stepson financially – rent, bills, allowances, you name it. I told her that once this relationship started I had to have her complete Loyalty. She told me I did, but sometimes I feel like I don’t.
Now Erica has gone on vacation to the city where she lived with the love of her life (he still lives there). She will be there for a whole month. This is very hard for me. I can’t go with her because of my job. I feel almost sure that she will be intimate with him or someone else when she’s there. She’s promised me that if she does, she will tell me. But I’m not okay with it. This to me is one of the most disloyal things a woman can do to a man, especially since I’m paying for the vacation, I support her and her son, and she’s pregnant with my daughter.
How do I handle this thing? Part of me wants to say I’m done with her, another part says ride it out. Erica does take very good care of me and pampers me. I don’t know for sure if she will cheat on me, but I feel like she will. Why would a woman do this to a man?
Dale - who has good reason not to trust her
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER
Wait a minute here. You say that when you and Erica were apart you had other partners, but when you were together it was real love. Dude, real love means there are other NO OTHER PARTNERS! To you Psych majors, real love is exclusive.
Now let me get this straight. First you tell me that you’re the love of Erica’s life, and then you tell me she has another love of her life? How is that possible? Doesn’t “love of your life” imply only one person?
How could you and Erica be intimate on a higher level? If you’d been intimate on a higher level, it would have meant that you two would have gotten married. So you didn’t go to a higher level, Dale. You’re actually on the same exact level you were on when you first met. It might have been a higher level in your mind, but in reality, nothing changed.
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I’m very sorry that you and Erica lost a baby. Losing a baby had to have a terrible effect on Erica’s mind, besides the fact that she wasn’t married to you and was having a baby out of wedlock. But aren’t you and she practicing birth control? Now she’s pregnant again. Where is the Self-Control in this relationship, guy?
All of which brings up a vital question: why aren’t you and Erica legally married? Why don’t you...
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