DOES HE NEED TO MOVE???
THE SYSTEM says that Ms. Right has INTEGRITY, A GIVING SPIRIT & is FLEXIBLE. Does he actually have to CHANGE his geography to find Ms. Right or is he head tripping himself?
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I have a question about the “The System.” It’s obvious that it works. I’ve been using it for three years and every time I get in a pinch, I’ve learned to say to myself, “What would Doc do?” Or if I meet a woman and I run out of things to say, I’ll just blurt out “Can I have your phone number?” It’s also shown me the ways to identify the good ones. For instance, I used to work out at a gym on Sunset Boulevard, and there was this beauty who worked at the front desk. This girl had the face of an angel and a body that would make Sommer Ray go running to the treadmill. So I went up to her one day, said hello and asked her name. She smiled and answered me. Unfortunately, she didn’t ask me for my name. Even though I was dying to get to know her, it was pretty obvious that unless my last name was Bezos, she wasn’t giving me the time of day. So I told her it was nice meeting her and moved on.
I’ve since left California and am living in New England. The women here aren’t quite the knockouts that grow out in the Golden State, but they are a lot more grounded and are the kind of women whose company I enjoy more often.
My problem is that your principles work on such a high level that it may be too powerful here. Let me explain. Using your rules in California allowed me to date the super-hotties that, once I detected their flaws and got rid of them, would have no problem grabbing some other poor schlep and making him her next victim. But women in New England are more kindhearted, and a little more fragile than on the West Coast. While “The System” would attract many L.A. women and make them want to chase me, it makes them fall head over heels for me here.
This one girl I was out with here squared her shoulders to mine, leaned towards me, and practically never broke eye contact the whole night. This may not sound like a problem, but from a guy who really doesn’t know if he wants to EVER get married, but loves the company of women, it’s difficult. Especially if you know you’re really going to hurt these women’s feelings or break their hearts. I developed my sense of humor over the years so that I can get them laughing and touching my knee on the first date every time. And we all know women love a man that can make them laugh.
So what I’m asking is this: Is “The System” just for guys who want to get a woman to stay with them forever? And if so, how can I apply what I learned, so that I can just date casually, and not feel like a jerk if a good girl really starts liking me and I’m just not feeling it for her. There’s no worse feeling than having to tell a sweet, Flexible Giver that you just want to be friends, when she’s the kind of girl whose eyes light up when you walk in the room. I know women have been doing it to us for centuries, but that still doesn’t stop me from feeling like a jerk. I was thinking that I could just go back to my old routines and they’d eventually leave me, but why would I want to throw away all that I’ve learned? I just want to tone it down a bit. I don’t want to be a “player,” but I love the dating game.
Stromile - who wants to be free to date them all
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER
I can’t tell you how great it is that you ask yourself what Doc Love would do in a given situation with a woman. Because if you ask yourself what to do, you’re going to flub it. The reason you get into a pinch is because out of nowhere babes are going to throw you a verbal curveball, and you have to know how to come back on a dime, bopbopbop, without mumbling or going completely dumb -- like most guys do.
Asking “What’s your phone number!” is the exact thing you should do when there’s nothing left to say. Beautiful, man, good for you. Because when there’s no more to say, that IS the best time to blurt out that all-important question. When you’re through with your sales pitch, you close and ask for the order. Period.
Now let me address how you handled that bombshell behind the counter on Sunset Boulevard. You were great, pal, nothing short of fantastic. Most guys would keep hanging around like hungry dogs, and they’d ask her out four or five more times until they were totally humiliated and were ordered to hit the bricks. But you moved on first. Unlike you, most guys would beat a dead horse. Like my cousin Jethro Love says, “When you’re at a fishin’ hole and the fish ain’t bitin’, don’t sit around there waitin’ for 20 years, boy. Get yourself off to another fishin’ hole!”
And that’s what you guys have to do. Because dating is a numbers game, and no matter how much you like the “10” standing behind the gym counter, you’re not a big-time Hollywood producer. Congratulations on recognizing the reality of the situation and not wasting your time.
Stromile, what you’re saying is that the women in Southern California have no depth, as opposed to your average New England earth mother. But who’s going to leave those small towns in the bucolic hills to come to Tinseltown? The Beautiful Women, that’s who. Hollywood is an entertainment center, and of course it has the weather.
You ask if “The System” is too powerful….Like I told you guys at the very beginning – this stuff is nitro. Not dynamite, not an Ouzi -- this is NITRO. That’s what you have here in my techniques. Even Supergirl has no defense against it, because it’s kryptonite.If these California honeys were so terrible that they drove you straight into the Snow Belt, Stromile, maybe you were just hooking up with the wrong women. Maybe you were...
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