6 WEEKS IN AND HE WANTS TO SEE HER ALL THE TIME? GUY, GUY, GUY...
THE SYSTEM says that you have to spoon feed yourself - but not our hero here - he wants to jump with both feet in after 6 weeks...umm...NOT GOOD!
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I’ve been dating Rachel for six weeks now and everything is going great. She is Beautiful, Intelligent, and so far I see no Red Flags whatsoever – at least that I’m aware of. In other words, she is a Keeper. The only thing that has me a little wary is that she is 22 years old and has only had one boyfriend before me. I’m 24, by the way and broke up with a long-term girlfriend from high school two years ago.
So here’s why I’m writing. Is it a good or a bad thing if you want to be with the other person all the time? Rachel and I want to do this because we are so in love with each other. That’s normal, wouldn’t you say? When you are at the beginning of a relationship and you are both deeply in love, you tend to want to be together all the time, right?
But in the back of my mind certain thoughts float through from time to time. For instance, should you resist that urge to be together all the time? Why? So as to not lose yourself in the other person. I feel that could happen, to be honest with you. And to keep your own separate identity. And to keep the girl longing for you. And to not “kill the spark” too soon. Etc. You get the idea.
Or should you just listen to your desire and dive in head first? That’s the other side of the coin. Sometimes you hear stories about couples that move in together right away because it just feels so right and they don’t want to live without each other.
What is your opinion and experience, Doc?
Jaxon - who doesn’t want to blow it
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER IN A SECOND BUT FIRST...
The first problem you have with Rachel is that you only have six weeks in with her. You cannot possibly tell me that a girl is a Keeper after only six weeks.
You really don’t know this girl. In fact, after six weeks, you don’t know anything at all about her. You would know her pretty well if you said that you had six months in with her, on the other hand. Six months is a lot different than six weeks.
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So you’re going too fast, Jaxon. You can’t possibly know if she’s a Keeper, because again, you don’t even know her. Add to that the fact that in the early stages of dating the guy and the girl are both high on each other, so you can’t see straight. You don’t really know yet whether Rachel is a Giver or a Taker. You don’t know yet if she’s moody. Etc.
The main point here is that IT TAKES TIME in order to find this stuff – the really important stuff-- out. And six weeks isn’t nearly time enough. To you Psych majors, you have to get two years in with her before you marry her because you’re going to be with her for 40 years.
Another problem you have is that Rachel is only 22 years old. As you know if you’ve read my book, between the ages of 18 and 22, the girl falls in and out of love every five minutes. I wish that Rachel was 25 or 26 years old and all grown up, but she isn’t. She just isn’t quite there yet.
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