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SENDING LOVEY DOVEY TEXT MESSAGES A FEW TIMES A DAY???
THE SYSTEM says that CHALLENGE IS THE KEY TO WOMEN so you can imagine that sending lovey dovey text messages a day is pretty ANTI-CHALLENGE. Uh, yeah, things didn't work out too well for our reader...
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I’ve never contacted a love coach, but I need some insight. I’ve gotten some other opinions on my situation, but they are all so different as to be confusing.
I’ve been dating Olivia for six months. We met on Tinder and took things VERY slow in the beginning. Neither of us really knew what we wanted – I think we chatted for two full months before even meeting! -- but we fell madly in love, or so I thought.
Around the five-month mark she told me, “I just don’t know, I’m not feeling it – it’s not passionate enough.” Now this was after a VERY passionate weekend. Anyway, a couple weeks passed and we got together to talk, and things got even hotter romantically. This past weekend we spent almost every moment together, even getting together with her family for dinner. Everything seemed great until I got this message: “I genuinely love you, I really do, but I need you to give me space, because you’re smothering me.” Now admittedly I was texting her a few times a day with lovely-dovey messages, but I thought she was enjoying that. Apparently I was wrong.
I am just baffled by how things could shift gears so quickly like this. We were even talking about buying a home together and possibly getting married.
I’m still in love with Olivia and want her back, but I have no choice but to back off now. Doc, I believe this thing is over though I don’t want it to be. My question is this: is there still a chance? And is it even worth it?
Stephen - who somehow messed up
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Blake, Austin, TX- happily married thanks to THE SYSTEM
Let me get this straight. You talked to Olivia for two full months before even meeting? All that time you were missing her body language, pal. When you talk on the phone or over the internet, IT’S MERELY TO SET UP A DATE and not spend all of your time talking. Then after setting up the date, you’re supposed to disappear. The point is that I want the girl to miss you from the time you set up the date to the time you pick her up. And the only way to do that is to have no communication in between those times. You’re butchering Challenge here, Stephen!
When Olivia said she wasn’t feeling it and that it wasn’t passionate enough, she was telling you that her Interest Level was only 55% and that it was heading south of 50%. So you’re on the way out, dude. And you don’t have a clue why or what to do because you don’t have my book. You mentioned that you went very slow in the beginning. My friend, you have to go slow during the whole relationship, not just the beginning!
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