Keep Your Mouth Shut! | Doc Love - Dating Advice For Men

Dating Women Advice: Would A Pal Ever Sabotage Robert Pattinson?


​​DON'T EVER TELL A BUDDY OR ANYONE ELSE THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN A WOMAN because they can mess you up -even if it's not on purpose.

Read the article below but first we have some audio extras for you:

Dating Women Podcast #101 & #102

101:  Why not, how about some more FREE CHAPTERS from SYSTEM AUDIO? 
102:  He's dating her but she admits to getting closer to another guy?  Really?

Dating Women Radio Show

Call us and
listen every Wednesday at 5:00 p.m. PT / 8:00 p.m. ET

855-345-7465 (US Toll Free - lower 48)
646-668-8937 (Alaska, Hawaii, International)


Hey Doc,

I own “The System” and have read it many times, but 10 years ago. Unfortunately, I let myself slip and didn’t read it enough to save my marriage, and as a result, after 12 years my wife and I are going through a divorce.

But that’s not the point of this letter. I have high Interest Level in a new woman, Melissa. She is part-owner of the bar I like to frequent. She is in an unhappy marriage and getting a divorce too. The past three months she’s been getting very friendly, I get the occasional hug, and she would sit next to me if she wasn’t busy and make conversation. I’d even get a free beer once in a while. I always kept what I said light and made her laugh, and I made sure I wasn’t too available. She even served me soft drinks after I had a couple of beers because she didn’t want me driving home drunk. I could feel her Interest Level rising but I wanted to make sure her divorce was final and she was available before I asked for her number.

Then my friend went and told Melissa when I wasn’t around that I really like her and wanted to ask her out. This friend said that Melissa told him she thinks I’m nice, but if she said yes to a date she would only be joking. Well, that completely blew the wind out of my sails. I’ve been back to the bar once and Melissa asked if I was okay, but her Interest Level sure seemed to have taken a hit. She didn’t initiate conversation and she stayed behind the bar playing with her cell phone. It was awful. My heart was pounding I was so nervous. When I left, she said have a great day, and that was it.

It seems like I need to be a real Challenge, so I haven’t been back to the bar when Melissa is there for three weeks now. I thought I’d try to make myself unavailable. Next time I go, it will only be with a group. I’ll keep my mouth shut, and if Melissa does say anything to me I’ll be light and funny and only stay for one beer instead of my usual two.

Doc, has this boat already sailed and I’m beating myself up over nothing? Can Challenge raise Melissa’s interest again? Or should I just man up and ask for her number even if she knows that my Interest Level is high?

Snuff - who doesn’t want a sugarcoated answer

FREE 7-day dating course.  
How to approach, the key to women, what to do on a first date and much more.  FIND OUT MORE HERE

Don't forget about a FREE Doc Love Club preview as well!


Hi Snuff,

What’s sad about your case is that you had the ball in your hands and you fumbled it at the two-yard line! I always tell you guys to read my book 15 times, then seven pages a night for the rest of your life. Why? Because you have all kinds of cultural garbage and misinformation stuck between your ears and it needs to be dislodged. Sadly, you had my book and you didn’t take advantage of its wisdom.

You say that you let yourself slip, and as a result you ended up going through a divorce when it didn’t have to be. If you didn’t have my book, you wouldn’t be quite as responsible for what happened because you wouldn’t have known what you were doing wrong, but you did have it. Again, like a halfback who was running with the football, you dropped it in a clutch situation.

Snuff, you might have high interest in a new woman, but you have to go back to my book and start all over again learning what to do because you obviously don’t know. You have to be all over “The System,” reading it once a week for 15 weeks so you don’t screw up again.

So, you went and told your buddy that you were interested in a woman that he knows. Big, huge mistake, dude. 

Now, how do you know that Melissa really said that she’d only be joking if she accepted a date with you? Can you really bet your life that she said that? Granted, she might have said it, but there’s no way you can be sure that she actually did because you don’t know the motives of your so-called friend. And guy, you still have to ask for Melissa’s number. And if her Interest Level took a hit, it’s on account of your big-mouthed buddy. You don’t need to be a Challenge now, you need to ask for Melissa’s phone number.

These articles give you a lot - but not enough - you need THE SYSTEM if you really want to be successful with women. Not sure? Read our "you changed my life letters."

Snuff, you simply don’t know whether or not...

The rest of this answer is only available to Doc Love Club Members...and when you join here's the direct link to the article or you can get a FREE SAMPLE HERE:

You get so much more by joining - not only do you get the rest of the article above but also why IT IS SO IMPORTANT that you do not put a head trip on yourself around the holidays. 
Also we give you over an hour of audio including our archived Dating Women Radio Show from that week.

Other benefits to members include:

*2 articles per week (there are hundreds on the Club and growing weekly)
*EXCLUSIVE audio including archives of the Dating Women Radio Show that go back to 2011 - hundreds of hours of audio and growing weekly!
*Specials just for members only!

Join The Doc Love Club TODAY!

Hi Atticus,


First of all, anytime a woman uses the word “space,” you’re DEAD. And when she utters the word “single,” it’s every bit as bad as the word “space,” and it means that you’re OUT. And in turn it means that her Interest Level has dropped below 50%, which means that there is no recovering.


Atticus, the really sad part is that at one time in this relationship, perhaps for a year and a half to two years, Dakota had high Interest Level in you. But due to your deportment, you slowly lowered it. Since I notice that you don’t mention “The System,” you’re not aware of how this process of deterioration works and you don’t even see that it’s going on. If you would have had my book one year before you met Dakota, she would be begging you for babies right now. Instead, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “Just the thought of you touching her makes her skin crawl.”


How can you envision a future with Dakota when she doesn’t even want to be in the same room with you? How obvious does she have to make it before you get the drift that you’re not just out, but that you’re COMPLETELY OUT?


Dude, Dakota isn’t confused at all – you’re the one who’s confused. She has low Interest Level, you’re out, and you think she has high interest and that you’re still in. That’s why you’re confused – not her.


Guy, Dakota doesn’t want you around her family anymore. What’s the point? This thing is over. To you Psych majors, when you lose the girlfriend, you lose the family too. Most guys don’t realize this. What are you going to do, hang around Dakota’s family and show up to her wedding when she marries her real love? So forget her sister and her fiancé. That’s dead, gone, and finished. Sure, they love you – but what good is it when your girlfriend is out of love with you?


Dakota’s Facebook posts aren’t mixed signals at all. They are very, very clear signals to you, my friend. They are saying that you are history. And again, why are you going to be friends with a couple related to a woman who dumped you? And you think they’re never going to talk about Dakota with you? Come on, Atticus, how unrealistic can you be?


You don’t know what Dakota’s motives are when she contacts you. The only thing you can know for sure is that you’re OUT. You definitely need my book, man. Again, if you’d had “The System,” this disaster never would have happened. But Dakota began to lose interest in you between a year and a half and two years before the breakup, and it slid all the way from 95% to below 50%. And when it hit 49%, she said “I’m out of here!”


You can’t approach this situation anymore, Atticus. You have to get my book and memorize it ASAP and find someone new who you haven’t blown it with. The truth is that you’re not rejecting Dakota when you tell her not to contact you because you’re already out.


Remember, guys: unless you memorize “The System,” you’ll just repeat the same mistakes with the next woman you meet. 

Hi Garry,


As soon as you began having trouble with your wife, you didn’t have “The System” overnighted to you (or buy my immediate downloads - ELECTRONIC SYSTEM or SYSTEM AUDIO). Why not? Do you realize the terrible anguish you could have saved yourself? All that time Donatella’s interest was going from 82%, etc. And as most American men do, you noticed it finally when it hit 60% or 57% or somewhere in that area. “The System” says that this woman probably once loved you. You’ve been with her for 15 years, and she probably loved you for eight to 10 years of that time. After that, because you took her for granted, her Interest Level began to drop.


And let me explain something to you. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 100% to 49% in an hour, or overnight, even though that’s the man’s perception of what’s going on. No, like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “It takes time and negligence to erode.” That’s why if you’d have memorized my materials, when it went from 91% to 89% you would have known to start getting into my MAINTENANCE PROGRAM, which will secure the woman wanting to stay with you forever. But like most men in America, you knew how to get her, but you didn’t know how to keep her. That’s why a majority of women recently reported in a national survey that they wouldn’t marry the same guy again. But since you didn’t have my book, what’s happened to you now is predictable.


You might have thought this situation was going to improve on its own, Garry, but when Interest Level goes 60%...58%..56%...54%, it’s like an airplane going down. It won’t pull up by itself. Like my cousin General Love says, “It just crashes and burns.” And that’s what happened with your wife. You murdered her Interest Level through your deportment.


So when your relationship with Donatella took another dive, why didn’t you Google a love doctor for some advice? The question to ask was, why is this woman so turned off when for eight or 10 years she idolized me? Dude, a good salary and taking care of your family financially doesn’t equate to romance to a female.


Your wife had been showing you for a long time that you were miles apart. Did she really have to verbalize it and tell you she no longer loved you? You’ve been with her for a long time, and when she finally said it after a deterioration of five or six years, it was only then that you sat up and took notice? Are you blind? And to you Psych majors, when she tells you that she no longer loves you, you are OUT.


Now let me explain something else to you. When Interest Level consistently drops, it’s NEVER temporary. It’s only temporary until she leaves. Then it’s final,


Now you’re in a fatal depression, pal. If you’d been studying my book all along, it would have made the pain more bearable. So the first thing you have to do now is have “The System” OVERNIGHTED to you and MEMORIZE it (or get an immediate download - SYSTEM AUDIO or ELECTRONIC SYSTEM). Because when it comes to women, you are absolutely clueless, even after you’ve lived with this woman for so long. Garry, I know more about your wife than you do and I’ve never even met the woman. And that’s very sad.


Then, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You have to suck it up.” When Donatella calls, be polite, don’t talk about your relationship, ask her how much money she needs, send her a check and ask her if there’s anything more you can do for her. Maybe, with time, she’ll meet you for coffee, then maybe a dinner date, then maybe you’ll move into getting her back into the house. Try to talk to your kids as much as possible. You’ll have to apologize for blowing up and making a fool of yourself because when you did that, it only reinforced your wife’s low Interest Level. Because what she said to herself was that she didn’t realize that her husband was so lacking in Self-Control!


But no matter what, you still need my book. You need to find out where you went wrong with your wife. Like I said earlier, you’re clueless.


Whether or not Donatella has found someone else is beyond your control. So don’t make the problem even worse than it is. Get “The System,” study it like heck, and we’ll do our best to get her back.


Donatella didn’t throw away anything over nothing. You stopped romancing your wife and took her for granted. You never told her she was Beautiful. You didn’t treat her like a woman. If you did, she would still be all over you.


Remember, guys: to keep your wife in love with you, you have to date her.

About the Author