SHOULD HE GIVE HER THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT?
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READER'S QUESTION
Hey Doc,
Vanessa is 22 and I’m 27. We’ve been together for a year now. When we started going out, I knew nothing at all about “The System.” I’ve just discovered your columns and they’ve intrigued me. Recently I have been plagued by doubts about my relationship with Vanessa. Let me lay it out for you.
Our romantic interludes have been disappearing. Vanessa almost never initiates intimacy. It has always been this way (and I don’t like it), and sometimes she says no to my advances (in a playful manner, but still, it’s a rejection). Doc, I need more affection than every once in a while.
I am worried that Vanessa may have cheated. One night not long ago she went out with her college classmates and instead of coming back to my place right afterwards, she went dancing and came back at six in the morning (the time when the clubs close here). A couple days later, she told me that she was mad at one of her female classmates because she was spreading a rumor that Vanessa had gone to a motel with Bill, one of her male classmates, the very same night they all went dancing.
I checked my browser’s history, and I discovered that Vanessa has been checking Bill’s Instagram and Facebook profiles. Not only that, but she also checks ALL of her past boyfriends’ profiles and the profiles of their new girlfriends -- on my computer.
Now I should say that Vanessa is a sweetheart to me, always asks for dates, always contacts me first, talks about the future, and says she wants to move in with me and marry me. I remain calm, unrushed and undisturbed about all of this, as well as about all of the above issues.
But on the inside I am not calm. I am very upset and agitated by Vanessa’s behavior. Why did she tell me this story about the rumor and the motel? If nothing happened, wouldn’t it have been better to let the whole thing go and not tell me? Naturally, now I can’t stop obsessing on whether she cheated. How can I know for sure? Or how can I stop obsessing? Should I just get out and find another girl?
Porter - who is always worried
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DOC LOVE'S ANSWER
Hi Porter,
First of all, you’re dealing with an 18-to-22 year young girl. If you’ve read “The System” -- and you haven’t -- you would know what I say about them. You should be with 25 or 26 year young woman. The breakup and divorce rate for girls 18 to 22 is extremely high because they aren’t grown up, despite the fact that they have a woman’s face and a woman’s body. Dude, if you’d had “The System” before you met this girl, you wouldn’t be confused right now. That’s the greatest thing about my book – it removes all confusion about women and relationships.
So you’re upset about the lack of romance with Vanessa because you don’t have “The System.” But she’s been this way with you since day one. She hasn’t changed at all. You’re getting upset now about a problem you’ve had from the beginning. At least Vanessa is playful when she rejects you. But the significant point here is that your Interest Level is much higher than hers, and that’s why she doesn’t always accept your advances. Yours is in the 90s, and hers is somewhere below that. Porter, you never raised Vanessa’s Interest Level above yours, and that’s your problem.
To you Psych majors, coming back at six in the morning from a club is what 22-year-olds do on account of their immaturity. And it has nothing to do with Vanessa’s low Interest Level, by the way. If she didn’t go to the motel with Bill, the reason she’s telling you is because she’s being open and honest. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “A 22- year-old isn’t smart enough to cover her tracks.” So you have to give Vanessa the benefit of the doubt on account of her age. Plus, you don’t own this girl.
Her Interest Level isn’t higher than yours, and again that’s...
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