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I am 39 years young, and a Doc Love Club member from South America. I own “The System” and “The System” audio book, and I really appreciate what you do for us guys.
You say in your book “One shot per girl per lifetime.” Here’s my story. Gigi is a dangerous creature, blond, blue eyes, long legs, a perfect 10. She’s intelligent, self-reliant, and she had high Interest Level in me when we started dating. So you can probably guess what happened next: I put her on a pedestal, became a Wimp, was always available and never a Challenge, and as a result lowered her interest. She never dumped me with words, but made me feel disrespected by her constant testing. One day I left her. Even though my Interest Level was high and I didn’t have your book at the time to help me, I walked, never looked back, never begged to get her back, and never called her. I gave her nothing.
One thing I must add: she was 19 when we started dating, and now she is almost 23. Like I said, I’m 39, but I look 10 years younger.
Our relationship ended two years ago. That was when I found “The System.” You always say give me a wounded heart, and I’ll give you back a believer in “The System,” and that is exactly my case. I’ve been dating other girls and “The System” gave me the ability to read every situation in the dating game. But now something new is happening and I need your help to read this situation correctly.
Gigi has recently reached out to me and told me she is sorry for her misbehavior. And she keeps reaching out to me. It’s always incoming, and I never call her and I never get emotional. But when she calls me she says she misses me, and that our relationship was special. She’s asked me out several times, and we’ve made out on a few of these dates. Two weeks ago she invited herself to my new apartment, and last week she came to see me playing at a gig (I’m a musician).
Doc, this girl looks like a model. I’m sure she can have any guy she wants. What is the bottom line here? Is this just inconsistent behavior? Is she trying to hold onto me until she finds another guy? Or am I missing something?
Bentt - who’s still interested in her
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Let me say first that you’re a very smart guy to have both the written and the audio versions of “The System.” Most guys only have one. But you’re getting a double dose of my principles – through the eyes AND the ears – so you’re going to learn much faster and more thoroughly than you normally would. Very wise, my friend.
You’re not alone in how you handled Gigi when you first dated, so don’t feel too bad. Most men do what you did – they lose all sense of Challenge and become Wimps. The trouble of course is that when the guy’s interest rockets into the 90s, it’s out of control. It’s best if the man’s interest is 80%-89%, and the woman’s is 90% to 100%.
Once the man’s Interest Level climbs into the 90s, he actually becomes a different person. And that’s dangerous.
But you decided to leave Gigi and never look back. In other words, you finally became a tough guy, but you became a tough guy when it was already too late. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “You shut the gate when the horse was already out of the corral.” You should have been a tough guy when you were dating Gigi.
Now Gigi is almost 23 years old. But what you fail to realize, Bentt, is that...
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