PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR WIFE!
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I’m 38 and I’ve known my wife, Donatella, for 15 years and have been married to her for 12. A year and a half ago, I started noticing a change in my wife’s behavior. She became distant, and our sex life almost disappeared.
For some reason, I thought this condition was going to go away on its own, and I became complacent. Fast forward to last summer. Our relationship took another dive, and any communication between Donatella and me was no longer there, sex was nonexistent and I found myself submerged and fully focused on my job as an escape from my domestic troubles. And that was okay, or so I thought, because I am bringing in a good salary and the family needs it.
It was not until we had a major discussion one night that my wife revealed to me that she had grown apart from me and no longer loved me. I was stunned, because I thought we had just been going through a temporary rough patch that would eventually improve on its own. I refused to accept what Donatella was telling me and I reacted in a negative way. I became angry to the point where I made a big scene at home, yelling and screaming, and causing her to leave the house with our kids. I then realized that the next step for her was to divorce me.
For the next three months, I became a roller coaster of emotions. I lost a bunch of weight and couldn’t even sleep. I’ve become paranoid with the thought of Donatella and the kids leaving me, and suddenly I’ve found myself trapped in a nightmare of depression.
Doc, do you have any suggestions for getting my wife back? She’s retreated to her sister’s house with the kids and I can’t get her to talk to me for more than a few seconds, which is only to deal with practical issues having to do with our children. I’m afraid that she’s going to find someone else now that we’re not living under the same roof. And I’m also afraid – though I have no proof thus far – that she may have already found someone to replace me.
I still can’t believe that Donatella would throw all those years into the garbage over nothing. Please coach me before I lose my mind.
Garry - who is desperate
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER
As soon as you began having trouble with your wife, you didn’t have “The System” overnighted to you (or buy my immediate downloads - ELECTRONIC SYSTEM or SYSTEM AUDIO). Why not? Do you realize the terrible anguish you could have saved yourself? All that time Donatella’s interest was going from 90%...to 88%...to 85%...to 82%, etc. And as most American men do, you noticed it finally when it hit 60% or 57% or somewhere in that area. “The System” says that this woman probably once loved you. You’ve been with her for 15 years, and she probably loved you for eight to 10 years of that time. After that, because you took her for granted, her Interest Level began to drop.
And let me explain something to you. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 100% to 49% in an hour, or overnight, even though that’s the man’s perception of what’s going on. No, like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “It takes time and negligence to erode.” That’s why if you’d have memorized my materials, when it went from 91% to 89% you would have known to start getting into my MAINTENANCE PROGRAM, which will secure the woman wanting to stay with you forever. But like most men in America, you knew how to get her, but you didn’t know how to keep her. That’s why a majority of women recently reported in a national survey that they wouldn’t marry the same guy again. But since you didn’t have my book, what’s happened to you now is predictable.
You might have thought this situation was going to improve on its own, Garry, but when Interest Level goes 60%...58%..56%...54%, it’s like an airplane going down. It won’t pull up by itself. Like my cousin General Love says, “It just crashes and burns.” And that’s what happened with your wife. You murdered her Interest Level through your deportment.
So when your relationship with Donatella took another dive, why didn’t you Google a love doctor for some advice? The question to ask was, why is this woman so turned off when for eight or 10 years she idolized me? Dude, a good salary and taking care of your family financially doesn’t equate to romance to a female.
Your wife had been showing you for a long time that you were miles apart. Did she really have to verbalize it and tell you she no longer loved you? You’ve been with her for a long time, and when she finally said it after a deterioration of five or six years, it was only then that you sat up and took notice? Are you blind? And to you Psych majors, when she tells you that she no longer loves you, you are OUT.
Now let me explain something else to you. When Interest Level consistently drops, it’s NEVER temporary. It’s only temporary until she leaves. Then it’s final,
Now you’re in a fatal depression, pal. If you’d been studying my book all along, it would have made the pain more bearable. So the first thing you have to do now is have “The System” OVERNIGHTED to you and MEMORIZE it (or get an immediate download - SYSTEM AUDIO or ELECTRONIC SYSTEM). Because when it comes to women, you are absolutely clueless, even after you’ve lived with this woman for so long. Garry, I know more about your wife than you do and I’ve never even met the woman. And that’s very sad.
Then, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You have to suck it up.” When Donatella calls, be polite, don’t talk about your relationship, ask her how much money she needs, send her a check and ask her if there’s anything more you can do for her. Maybe, with time, she’ll meet you for coffee, then maybe a dinner date, then maybe you’ll move into getting her back into the house. Try to talk to your kids as much as possible. You’ll have to apologize for blowing up and making a fool of yourself because when you did that, it only reinforced your wife’s low Interest Level. Because what she said to herself was that she didn’t realize that her husband was so lacking in Self-Control!
But no matter what, you still need my book. You need to find out where you went wrong with your wife. Like I said earlier, you’re clueless.
Whether or not Donatella has found someone else is beyond your control. So don’t make the problem even worse than it is. Get “The System,” study it like heck, and we’ll do our best to get her back.
Donatella didn’t throw away anything over nothing. You stopped romancing your wife and took her for granted. You never told her she was Beautiful. You didn’t treat her like a woman. If you did, she would still be all over you.
Remember, guys: to keep your wife in love with you, you have to date her.