Do You Go Overseas For The Lady Of Your Dreams?
Why Russian Women? Why not Japanese Women? Why not South American Women? Well, Doc Love is into the internet and knows what Google cares about and lots of guys are searching for "Dating Russian Women" so I thought I'd weigh in.
This advice will work for dating any woman from a foreign country - I think the whole "Russian Bride" phenomenon is why guys think of "Russian Women" first in a search but this can really apply to any woman you meet on one of those international matchmaker sites that you're trying to bring over to the U.S. (after going over to meet her for a period of time - usually 4-6 weeks).
Never let it be said that I'm not into true love but my love of love cannot overcome my common sense based reality teachings - so as you can imagine I think it's all a bad idea - here are 3 reasons why.
By the way, let me be clear that I don't think foreign women are bad per se - there are GREAT women all over the world - my problem isn't the women but where they're located in relation to you - read on.
How Can You Really Know Her?
You go to a site, a matchmaker let's you thumb through profiles and you correspond with the women that trip your trigger - but how can you really know what she's about? I can be a CEO earning $50,000,000 with my own yacht as far as anyone could know if I write things correctly online - it's so easy to lie - or should I say "exaggerate," especially when you're 5,000 miles away.
Yes, yes, yes, I know that these "services" claim to vet the women and that you should trust them and their track record but really, can you be sure? Even if the service is on the up and up how do you know the woman is on the up and up? Remember, con artists exist all over the world and that old maxim of there's a sucker born every minute with two to take him rings true.
I don't care how "careful" you or the service are - you cannot know a stranger that's thousands of miles away no matter how careful you think you or they are.
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Commit This Soon?
You talk over the months or Skype or call or whatever and then it's time to go meet - the process takes what? 3 months? 6 months? Whatever - it's not enough. I advise guys in my dating relationship education course called THE SYSTEM that you need to have 2-3 months of solid dating (where you see her once per week to get up to 10-12 dates) and then make her your girlfriend for 2 years where you'll see her another 2 to 3 (usually 2) times a week BEFORE ENTERTAINING THE THOUGHT OF MARRIAGE.
However, when you're pursuing a foreign bride, they're ready to jump now - you will correspond, visit and then bring them back to meet dear old mom and dad - TOO SOON GUY. I've had guys tell me that their girlfriends pulled nonsense on them after a year of solid dating and they dropped them but it's not as easy to extract yourself when you've dragged her 5,000 miles across the world only to find out that the sweet, caring, sensitive, giving girl from the Ukraine has turned into a clone of the Real Housewives of (insert city here - doesn't matter - they're all bad!).
Remember guy, you're getting a STRANGER - and if you don't spend time with her then you'll never know what she's all about - it's IMPOSSIBLE to get to know her on your trip when she's on the best behavior.
If It Sounds Too Good To Be True...
The girl you're corresponding with is just like the 20-something secretary that dates nothing but successful band guys - but your girl is not only a spitting image but she's super sweet and into you - in spite of your 17 year age difference!
Happy days are here again!
Listen, if she wouldn't be interested in you in the U.S. then she's not going to be interested in you just because she lives in a foreign country. I know, I know, I know - they're "different" - they're religious or there's not enough men or the men in their country are all negative alcoholics, blah, blah, blah. It's great marketing playing on lonely guys, I'll give them that - but it DOES NOT MEET REALITY.
If you don't believe me and you want to assume that hot 20-something women that don't like you in the U.S. will like you just because they're 4,333 miles away, then run this test to REALLY test her motivation. Go over there and tell her how much you love her, want to marry her and make her happy but suggest that instead of her coming to the U.S. to live with you, you'll stay there and move in with her and her 9 relatives. I think you'll see her INTEREST LEVEL take an immediate nosedive.