SINCE HE DIDN'T GIVE HER LOYALTY HE DOESN'T DESERVE LOYALTY BACK FROM HER
THE SYSTEM says that if you WANT loyalty then you must GIVE loyalty - a lesson our reader missed in a big way. Find out more in the article below.
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I’ve been dating Cheri for nine months and I’m starting to worry that we might not have much of a chance. We didn’t start things out conventionally. It started by me going over to her house and watching movies with her as I wasn’t planning on being in a relationship with her. Something happened and we became romantically involved. Cheri is smart and Beautiful and has a great personality.
Two months ago I hooked up with another girl. We didn’t go all the way, but I let this other girl give me a lap dance and kiss me on the neck. I didn’t touch her but I didn’t push her off either. The next day I felt extremely guilty and I think Cheri could sense something on my face when we were snap chatting with each other.
Fast forward to now. I feel like Cheri still has trouble trusting me. When I try to emotionally distance myself so I can see things more clearly, it seems like she resents it and her attraction to me goes lower. I’m worried that she knows I messed up and will never be able to trust me again.
I never told Cheri what happened with the other girl but I can tell that she’s not willing to commit to me. She has a guy friend that she’s known since middle school who she talks with every day. I’ve tried to not show any jealousy and I don’t mention him, but she brought him up today out of nowhere. I don’t know why she’s in contact with him.
Doc, it seems like I’m at a make or break point with Cheri. I’m a little bit screwed up here and don’t know how to proceed. Any input would be great. Thanks!
Amir - who doesn’t know how to fix it
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER IN A SECOND BUT FIRST...
Now, you don’t go over to a woman’s house to watch movies as a friend. I don’t want guys to have female friends. You can talk to them, of course, but I want you to have a couple of male buddies and that’s it. I’ve got news for you: when you’re spending all of this time watching movies at a woman’s house, you’re exiling yourself to the Friend Zone.
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Amir, when you have a girlfriend, you have to give her your LOYALTY. You did the wrong thing by messing around with another woman. You should have pushed that other girl off when she started lap-dancing you. Of course Cheri senses something is off when you were talking to her because women have a sixth sense that tells them when something isn’t right. Cheri has the ability to read your body language and she did it when you were talking to her. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “Men are terrible at hiding infidelity.”
Cheri has trouble trusting you now because her gut was telling her something was off. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “What it was telling her was that you were messing around with another kitty kat.” When you detect that her attraction to you is going lower, it means that her Interest Level is dropping because she smells a rat. To you Psych majors, men are lousy liars. Sixty percent of communication is body language, and your body is broadcasting that you did a no-no. While Cheri can’t put her finger on it, she knows you did something wrong.
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You know why Cheri is telling you about this guy friend of hers, pal? Because you messed around with somebody else and she’s getting you back. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “It’s tit for tat.”
Amir, you have to get “The System” ASAP and learn how to treat women with Respect and Dignity. Then, when you’re around Cheri, you cannot be ill at ease with your infidelity. Just keep your mouth shut about it and never do it again. Hopefully, with time, Cheri’s resentment and suspicion will diminish and go away, and her Interest Level will rise back to what it once was.
Remember, guys: when you have a girlfriend, Loyalty is number one.