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HE ESCAPED THE FRIEND ZONE BUT YOU SHOULD NEVER COUNT ON THIS HAPPENING!
THE SYSTEM says the FRIEND ZONE is nearly impossible to get out of - this guy did - should you use it as inspiration? NO, NO, NO and you'll find out why in the article below...
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I met Sophie, 28, at a bar. She said that she was only looking for friends, nothing more. We stayed in touch through social media, which went on for a few months. Whenever we got together, we just hung out as friends.
One day out of the blue Sophie told me that she was attracted to me. In other words, without warning she switched gears on me. I didn’t know how to take this, as I was already mentally Friend-Zoned. For some reason I feel like Sophie sabotaged her chances with me because she put up her Friend Zone wall with me.
So basically I couldn’t go along with it, because I felt the timing between us was off and that she had thrown us out of sync. It never went full swing between us because once I THOUGHT I was in the Friend Zone, I felt like there was no getting out of it and I didn’t trust the situation.
This isn’t the first time something like this has happened to me. I get the feeling this is what women do. They Friend-Zone guys until they feel them out, get to know them, and so on, then decide whether they want to have a romantic relationship with them.
What do you think? I guess this means that just because you’re Friend-Zoned at first, it doesn’t mean that you’re out of the game with a certain girl. Are these women just evaluating you?
Christopher - who feels like he has to be wary
DOC LOVE'S ANSWER IN A SECOND BUT FIRST...
First of all, when a woman tells you that she just wants to be friends, DON’T hang out with her. Because she’s really telling you up front that she’s NOT INTERESTED in you. And while you’re wasting time hanging out with her, you could be hustling other babes who DON’T want to be just friends – in other words, women who want to be more than just friends.
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To you Psych majors, the vast majority of the time a girl says she just wants to be friends, you can’t change it. When Sophie switched gears and told you that she was attracted to you, you have to understand that this sort of thing happens VERY, VERY RARELY. For instance, if you happen to be working with a woman and she’s not interested in you, sometimes through interactions on the job and given enough time she might find herself attracted to you. I call this “sneak-up” love. But again, this is a very rare occurrence. So in your case you beat the odds and did happen to wear Sophie down, but it’s dangerous for any guy to believe that something like this happens all the time – because it doesn’t.
So now you have to learn to be flexible and get over the feeling of being Friend-Zoned, pal. This girl is coming on to you NOW. You’re in the dating zone NOW. Why are you fighting it? Sophie didn’t sabotage anything. She put you in the Friend Zone at first because there was something about you she didn’t care for, and it was most likely that you failed the Physical Attraction Test. But guess what? You wore her down. Congratulations to you, Christopher!
Why can’t you go along with Sophie’s change of heart? You were attracted to her from the beginning and wanted to ask her out, so why are you resisting it now? Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth, you idiot.” And she didn’t throw anything out of sync. You turned this woman around, my friend. So now you can trust the situation because you wore her down.
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Of course this isn’t the first time something like this has happened. Most of the time you’re not going to get all girls to like you, but in this case you hung in there – which “The System” is against, by the way – and you beat the long odds of getting her to dig you.
No, this is not what all women do. Some do it and some don’t. But you’re completely off if you think women Friend-Zone guys to feel them out. A woman knows in the first three minutes if she wants to go out with you. Sophie didn’t want to go out with you at first, but you sold her.
The truth is that you’re out of the game 99% of the time when you get Friend- Zoned, so don’t be fooled. No – they are not just evaluating you. She is either interested in you or she’s not. You happened to get lucky here, dude.
Remember, guys: the odds of getting out of the Friend Zone are one in 100.