NO GOOD WOMEN OUT THERE ANYMORE? NONSENSE!!!
THE SYSTEM says that there are a LOT OF GOOD WOMEN OUT THERE but our reader this week has allowed himself to get into such a negative mindset he cannot see the possibilities around him - but we set him straight.
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I’ve been a follower and owner of “The System” for a very long time and it’s made an enormous difference in my life for the better.
Last year I came out of a horribly bad, several years-long relationship with a 29-year-old woman. I’m in my thirties and the age difference between us was less than 10 years, but it still went wrong. I carried almost no baggage going into it other than I’m a big stickler for discipline and a clean home and car.
Here’s my problem. Every gal I’ve dated in recent years who is anywhere between 20 to 40 has a sexual history to make a porn star blush. And as you say in “The System,” taking on a woman with a long relationship history means I’ll be fighting the demons left behind by every man who ever abused her, wronged her or dumped her.
I happen to be back in a large university for an advanced degree. Except for one fellow female student who is 20, all the others I’ve met are guaranteed to make me miserable. They are all badly damaged, out of shape, or both. I take care of myself. Other than my ex, I’ve avoided emotional damage religiously, and any time a girl started showing Red Flags, I’d give her a few chances proportional to our time together, then politely leave her.
The market is pretty bad at my university, and Doc, I’m getting tired of simply not finding anything worth keeping! Do you have any ideas for where I might look for a Keeper?
Anquan - who lives in an area with few possibilities
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Why did you spend so much time with your ex when it was so bad? Wasting years with this woman was what made it a horrible experience. When it was just a little bit bad you should have gotten out, pal. The point is that you shouldn’t have lingered when things went south. Like my cousin General Love says, “Remember, make your mistakes quickly.”
But you’re viewing the whole of womankind the wrong way, Anquan. For instance, if you met a woman whose husband passed away or she got a divorce after 15 years of marriage, you wouldn’t have the problems of a long history of scars and baggage because she would have been locked in a time warp with one man. In other words, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “She wouldn’t have been out with an army of different guys and have 200,000 miles on her odometer.”
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Now wait a minute here. You’re attending a big university, Anquan. Let’s say you have 5,000 women around you, and you can’t find one good one? Are you going out strictly with Beautiful Women? Something isn’t right here, my friend. You’re at a big institution, where presumably there are many available women, so it shouldn’t be much of a problem finding women to date.
Aside from the women surrounding you at school, where can you look for a Keeper? You mention that many women that you run into are out of shape. Why not join some kind of athletic club, like a tennis club or running club, where most of the women will be in athletic condition? Or why not try a dance class where they will also be in good shape? There is no shortage of places to look for available women, buddy.
Another suggestion is to try some of the different churches in your area. The social events featured by churches will certainly attract conservative women who also attend services, thereby cutting down on the scars and baggage issue you keep running up against.
These articles give you a lot but there are key elements that you're missing if you don't have my book so if you really want to be successful with women you need THE SYSTEM. Still not convinced? Read my "YOU CHANGED MY LIFE" letters.
But again, if you’re in a university environment where there are scads of women to meet, you have to remember that they can’t all be bad. Think about it. You couldn’t possibly have gone out with all of the thousands of women who attend your school. And again, all those women can’t be bad. You can also join some social clubs at your university where there are a crowd of women and try to work your way through them.
One more suggestion, Anquan. If you’re looking strictly for A-plus women, as I alluded to earlier, that might well be your problem. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “When you’re looking for a Keeper, you have to remember to be realistic.”
Remember, guys: you only need one good one.