WANT TO KEEP HER? SHUT. YOUR. MOUTH.
THE SYSTEM says that sometimes it's as simple as SHUTTING YOUR MOUTH and not broadcast how much you like her because if you don't you really hurt your chances with her.
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I’ve started reading “The System” for the second time now. I’ve already gone ahead and bought Mastery 1 and 2 to study after I finish reading “The System” 14 more times. I am also a member of your Doc Love Club and listen to your hourly radio show every week.
Right now I have one question. How do I reduce my Interest Level for a particular lady? Taylor is a very attractive woman in her early twenties. We’ve been dating for only a few weeks, but everything seems like it’s going great. I’m 28, but I can feel that at any moment I could lose control over her. This has always been a problem for me in the past and it’s destroyed a few relationships. I do not want to come in so hot that I turn Taylor off.
You talk about Self-Control and the need for it in your book. Can you give me any practical suggestions for how to cultivate it? I think this is extremely important and has to do with Self-Esteem, but no one ever seems to explain how you actually maintain Self-Control.
Any coaching would be greatly appreciated, Doc. I can already see that if I can internalize your principles, it will transform my love life.
Frenchy - who has taken the first steps
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It’s great that you got “The System” and that you’re reading it for the second time. Like I tell you guys, you have to read it 15 times – once a week for 15 weeks – then you’re going to read seven pages per night until you get married. Why do you have to read seven pages a night? Because once you get away from my teachings, YOU’RE GOING TO LOSE THE GIRL. And remember – seven pages per night will only take you five minutes – but it will mean the difference between a lifetime of success or failure.
In addition, you already have Mastery 1 and 2, which will teach you how to test yourself on my materials. Take notes on the Doc Love Radio Show. Pretend you’re in a college class. All of this will help. There are over 100 archived shows, so listen to those in addition to my weekly show. Plus, you’re getting my weekly columns. So you’re getting a lot of information from me. Remember to have fun with this stuff and don’t look at it as work. Like an artist, the more you practice, the better you will be. The more you go by “The System,” the stronger you will be with women.
WHAT??? YOU didn't sign up for my free 7-day dating course yet? Did you not understand the word FREE?
You’re looking at your current situation the wrong way, Frenchy. You’re not going to reduce your Interest Level in Taylor – and you don’t have to. What you are going to do is be aware that your Interest Level is too high. To you Psych majors, the man never feels comfortable until the woman’s interest is higher than his. When her interest hits the 90s and his is only in the 80s, he can relax a little, because he knows that she likes him more than he likes her. Like my cousin General Love says, “That’s exactly the position you want to be in.”
Now, with Taylor you do have a problem: she’s only in her early twenties. When a woman is between 18 and 22, she’s not grown up yet. You need a woman who is at least 24 or 25, pal. That said, you can be taught to be cool in this situation and not lose your head.
These articles give you a lot but there are key elements that you're missing if you don't have my book so if you really want to be successful with women you need THE SYSTEM. Still not convinced? Read my "YOU CHANGED MY LIFE" letters.
Let me explain something to you. The only reason you’ll lose control over Taylor is because of YOUR MOUTH. It’s such a simple principle, and yet I’ve never read another love doctor who understands it, let alone mentions it! All you have to do to prevent yourself from getting into trouble is CONTROL YOUR TONGUE. So when you see Taylor, don’t give her 15 compliments, even though she’s Beautiful. Again, it’s a matter of controlling your tongue. You do not have to control your feelings, and that distinction is important. So before you open your mouth, remind yourself of my rules: “Keep it light, keep it funny, no heavy subjects, no negatives, no put-downs.” Every time you want to compliment Taylor, you’re NOT going to do it. Every time you want to TOUCH her, you’re going to wait for her to touch you first.
Frenchy, what destroyed your past relationships was mouthing off. You talked too much -- that was your problem. As soon as you want to say something not in keeping with my guidelines, JUST DON’T TALK. Again, it’s a matter of controlling your tongue -- that’s the key. When you want to say something wrong, DON’T SAY IT. Remember, it’s okay to feel it, it’s okay to want to say it, but it’s not okay to say it.
Remember, guys: the key to Self-Control is controlling your tongue.