WHAT'S THE 411 ON THIS ARTICLE?
5 months in and his "girlfriend" is only his girlfriend in name only because she's sure not acting like it and he's too CLUELESS to see what's actually going on.
I’ve been seeing Kayla for five months. We are both college students. We are romantic and intimate and have been for the past two months. We have no problems in that area, nor do we have any other problems. We always seem to enjoy each other’s company. But while Kayla still flirts with me, it seems to be dying off.
Actually, Kayla has me hanging by a thread. She’s terrible about calling me back when she says she will. She will also resort to text messaging instead of calling. Recently she’s been making more and more excuses about how she can’t hang out. I cracked and brought up to her how I was feeling and how I thought she was acting badly. She got very defensive and clammed up. She wouldn’t even talk with me about how I was feeling. I was merely trying to let her know that I didn’t feel as important as she says I am and that she doesn’t follow her words up with actions.
What really drives me crazy is that Kayla says she misses me by phone or text message, but when it comes down to it she doesn’t make time for me. For example, we went through a week and a half of not seeing each other. She made excuses that she was “sick” or “tired” or “busy with school.” It got to the point where I stopped asking her to hang out simply because every time I did she had an excuse, but she would still always tell me I mean so much to her and she misses me and cares so much about me.
Well, after that long stint of not seeing each other she went to the college football game without me. I’d told her several times that I wanted to go with her, but I didn’t want to bug her and backed off after a while. I didn’t want to come off as desperate, so I just sat back and did my own thing in hopes she would come out of her funk. In the end she didn’t go with me to the game.
Overall, Kayla doesn’t put out any effort to see me. She wants me around, but only when it’s convenient for her. Now she won’t respond to my text messages and sometimes won’t even return my phone calls or call me back when she says she will. But always the next day she ends up messaging me like nothing’s wrong. She won’t go out of her way for me like I do for her. When she has a free night she always ends up doing something with her sister or friends instead of me. I tried explaining to her that she’s pushing me away and may eventually push me all the way.
Help, Doc! I need your coaching.
Eric - who can’t take it anymore
WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO APPROACH WOMEN???
I'll give you the 411 on how to approach women AND also 6 more GREAT dating lessons all FOR FREE - oh, let me say that word one more time:
When a guy says “it seems like it’s dying off,” that means that the girl’s Interest Level has taken a swan dive. In other words, it’s going 65%, 64%, 63%, etc. It might drop only a point a week, but after a few months it’s over and you’re history. If Kayla is terrible about calling you back, it’s because she doesn’t have 95% Interest Level in you. To you Psych majors, a girl with 95% interest is going to call you back. A girl with 65% interest won’t call, or she’ll wait a couple of days.
Now if Kayla’s making excuses for why she can’t see you, it means her Interest Level is down to 55%.
What this tells me is that you don’t have my book, pal. And I also see that Kayla is between the ages of 18 and 22, which means she’s a ding-dong. But you don’t understand any of this because you don’t have “The System.” If you did, you wouldn’t be writing me.
All women get defensive and clam up when you confront them with their bad behavior, even if they’re guilty. You have a lot to learn about women, Eric. You know why Kayla won’t talk about how you’re feeling? Because...
The rest of this answer is only available to Doc Love Club Members...and when you join here's the direct link to the article or you can get a FREE SAMPLE HERE:
You get so much more by joining - not only do you get the rest of the article above but also our special ADVANCED SYSTEM CLASS that talks about how you really need to understand what THE SYSTEM is trying to tell you - a lot of guys don't get this right. Also we give you over an hour of audio including our archived Dating Women Radio Show from that week.
Other benefits to members include:
*2 articles per week (there are hundreds on the Club and growing weekly)
*EXCLUSIVE audio including archives of the Dating Women Radio Show that go back to 2011 - hundreds of hours of audio and growing weekly!
*Specials just for members only!
Join The Doc Love Club TODAY!
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
Don't be shy - LET'S TALK BELOW!