Dating Women Advice: Would Justin Tell Jennifer If He Was Having An Affair With Her Friend?

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​Okay, so he dated a woman behind his wife's back who eventually became friends with his now ex-wife and blew him off because she valued the friendship with his ex over him.

Whew - try not to make the same mistakes this guy did!

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READER'S QUESTION

Hey Doc,

This is a really hard letter for me to write. I don’t want to say that I’m embarrassed by what happened because all of us make mistakes, but I have had a difficult time of it. Now I will admit right here that I don’t have or use “The System,” but I’m looking for an expert’s opinion on my situation, so I thought I would write to you.

My ex-wife, Linda, and I work for the same company here in Houston. Before I filed for divorce, I secretly began dating our co-worker, Caroline, who I was attracted to ever since she started working here. After the divorce papers were filed, Linda moved out of our house and, being extremely upset over what happened between us, needed someone to talk to. She happened to choose Caroline to confide in about her troubles. This, as you might imagine, created immediate and immense complications in my life.

Caroline, not wanting to expose that she and I were secret lovers, lent Linda a sympathetic ear. At one point, Linda told Caroline that she was her best friend. Caroline would sometimes call my wife to find out what her plans were on a particular night so our paths wouldn’t cross if she and I happened to be out on a date. Sometimes Linda baby-sat for Caroline’s children so Caroline and I could sneak out. It was nerve-wracking to say the least.

Well, eventually Caroline decided to break up with me. She felt that things had become too complicated since we all worked in the same building. She also decided that she wants to remain friends with Linda.

Doc, Linda still does not know about my affair with Caroline. This seems like the ultimate form of deceit to me now. Since my relationships with both women are now history, should I tell my ex-wife what really went on -- or keep my mouth shut? It just seems to me that the truth should come out at some point.

Your thoughts on this morass would be greatly appreciated.

Gabe - who feels like blowing the top off everything


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DOC LOVE'S ANSWER

Hi Gabe,

Let me get this straight. You have a huge problem with two women and you know that I’m an expert when it comes to dating and relationships. Yet for a mere $99 you can have the key to the kingdom – “The System” – and you do​n’t have it. Why not, pal? If you’d had my book, you would have understood how to avoid all the complications you were about to get strangled in.

Now first of all, your biggest problem is that you shouldn’t have dated Caroline, especially when you work for the same company and your secret would have come out sooner or later. Secondly, you were still married when you began dating Caroline. You shouldn’t have dated Caroline until all the paperwork for your divorce was completed and you were legally divorced. So any complications you suffered from living a life of deception were of your own making.

Once you started dating Caroline when you were still married, you had her sneaking around. To you Psych majors, any decent woman doesn’t want to be sneaking around. Caroline was right in the end – your affair was entirely too complicated since you all worked in the same building. What’s sad is that you were dating someone who knew your ex. You should have said to yourself: “I should not date anybody who knows my wife.” And that’s exactly where this problem started. You should have passed on Caroline altogether because she was involved with your spouse. And you didn’t do it.

Of course Caroline is going to remain friends with Linda. She’s not going to just chuck her good friend. Now you just have to hope that Caroline never opens her mouth about what was going on between the two of you. If she does, things will get really messy!

There’s no deceit here, Gabe. If the truth of what happened between you and Caroline ever comes out, all of the people involved are going to get hurt. Remember, there’s a difference between being open and honest. You should be honest with people, but you’re not supposed to be open with them. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “That means you only pick from the good pile, and never the bad pile.”

Why would it help anyone in any way to tell your ex-wife what was really going on between you and Caroline? Again, all you’re going to do is hurt her and ruin what’s left of the relationship between you and Caroline. Caroline will be thinking to herself, “Gee, I should never have gone out with this jerk!” And like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “Then you’ll have two women who hate your guts!” Dude, you have to keep your mouth shut and get “The System” ASAP. At the end of the day, not having my book is your biggest problem, Gabe. All these needless complications are the result of not having the first clue about how to deal with women and relationships.

You’re wrong – the truth shouldn’t come out at some point. That’s the misconception so many people have. When the truth sees the light of day in most cases, all it does is cause a ton of pain. There’s no need for it whatsoever here. So just suck it up, buddy. You made a mistake. You should have never dated Caroline to begin with.

Remember, guys: if you’re going through a divorce, you can’t date your wife’s co-worker.

Hi Garry,

 

As soon as you began having trouble with your wife, you didn’t have “The System” overnighted to you (or buy my immediate downloads - ELECTRONIC SYSTEM or SYSTEM AUDIO). Why not? Do you realize the terrible anguish you could have saved yourself? All that time Donatella’s interest was going from 90%...to 88%...to 85%...to 82%, etc. And as most American men do, you noticed it finally when it hit 60% or 57% or somewhere in that area. “The System” says that this woman probably once loved you. You’ve been with her for 15 years, and she probably loved you for eight to 10 years of that time. After that, because you took her for granted, her Interest Level began to drop.

 

And let me explain something to you. Interest Level doesn’t drop from 100% to 49% in an hour, or overnight, even though that’s the man’s perception of what’s going on. No, like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “It takes time and negligence to erode.” That’s why if you’d have memorized my materials, when it went from 91% to 89% you would have known to start getting into my MAINTENANCE PROGRAM, which will secure the woman wanting to stay with you forever. But like most men in America, you knew how to get her, but you didn’t know how to keep her. That’s why a majority of women recently reported in a national survey that they wouldn’t marry the same guy again. But since you didn’t have my book, what’s happened to you now is predictable.

 

You might have thought this situation was going to improve on its own, Garry, but when Interest Level goes 60%...58%..56%...54%, it’s like an airplane going down. It won’t pull up by itself. Like my cousin General Love says, “It just crashes and burns.” And that’s what happened with your wife. You murdered her Interest Level through your deportment.

 

So when your relationship with Donatella took another dive, why didn’t you Google a love doctor for some advice? The question to ask was, why is this woman so turned off when for eight or 10 years she idolized me? Dude, a good salary and taking care of your family financially doesn’t equate to romance to a female.

 

Your wife had been showing you for a long time that you were miles apart. Did she really have to verbalize it and tell you she no longer loved you? You’ve been with her for a long time, and when she finally said it after a deterioration of five or six years, it was only then that you sat up and took notice? Are you blind? And to you Psych majors, when she tells you that she no longer loves you, you are OUT.

 

Now let me explain something else to you. When Interest Level consistently drops, it’s NEVER temporary. It’s only temporary until she leaves. Then it’s final,

 

Now you’re in a fatal depression, pal. If you’d been studying my book all along, it would have made the pain more bearable. So the first thing you have to do now is have “The System” OVERNIGHTED to you and MEMORIZE it (or get an immediate download - SYSTEM AUDIO or ELECTRONIC SYSTEM). Because when it comes to women, you are absolutely clueless, even after you’ve lived with this woman for so long. Garry, I know more about your wife than you do and I’ve never even met the woman. And that’s very sad.

 

Then, like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You have to suck it up.” When Donatella calls, be polite, don’t talk about your relationship, ask her how much money she needs, send her a check and ask her if there’s anything more you can do for her. Maybe, with time, she’ll meet you for coffee, then maybe a dinner date, then maybe you’ll move into getting her back into the house. Try to talk to your kids as much as possible. You’ll have to apologize for blowing up and making a fool of yourself because when you did that, it only reinforced your wife’s low Interest Level. Because what she said to herself was that she didn’t realize that her husband was so lacking in Self-Control!

 

But no matter what, you still need my book. You need to find out where you went wrong with your wife. Like I said earlier, you’re clueless.

 

Whether or not Donatella has found someone else is beyond your control. So don’t make the problem even worse than it is. Get “The System,” study it like heck, and we’ll do our best to get her back.

 

Donatella didn’t throw away anything over nothing. You stopped romancing your wife and took her for granted. You never told her she was Beautiful. You didn’t treat her like a woman. If you did, she would still be all over you.

 

Remember, guys: to keep your wife in love with you, you have to date her.

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Steven - 20 September 2017 Reply

Thank God Gabe and Caroline didn’t have children.

    DocLove - 21 September 2017 Reply

    Steven,

    Thanks for the support

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