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Dating Women Podcast #73 & 74

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*73:  Did seeing someone else while he was broke up with her permanently sink his chances with her?

*74:  He and HER BOYFRIEND got played by HER - don't make the same mistake

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READER'S QUESTION

Hey Doc,

I’m 28 and would like to thank you for the “The System.” It has really changed my life, my way with women, and opened my eyes on dating. I’ve read it three times and have taken extensive notes. But I’m really stuck on something.

I go to the gym six days a week. I noticed a woman there who was always staring at me. I struck up a conversation with her and found out that she’s married to a guy I knew in high school. Maddie and I started talking more frequently, which turned into working out together, then turned into hanging out outside of the gym, which turned into being physical with each other. I know what you’re thinking, that this woman is a total whore, but that’s not the case. I’ve realized that she’s my other half, my soul-mate, if you believe in that kind of stuff. We are exactly like one another in what we eat, movies, mannerisms, personalities. I think it’s fate, to be honest. There are too many parallels in our lives for it not to be.

So Maddie cheated on her husband with me. I did the right thing and told him everything we did. He took her back and they are still together. A couple of months passed and I found out that she is carrying his baby. She said that it was not intended to happen, but they were drunk and it did. It’s been 10 months since we’ve known each other, and we are still totally in love with each other. It’s impossible for us to stop communicating with each other either via text or phone. We tell each other we should stop talking, but a couple days go by and one of us will cave in. Then we’ll talk, realize that we shouldn’t be doing this because she wants to be a good person and not betray her husband, and I don’t want the bad karma, so we’ll stop talking. Then the vicious cycle will start over again.

Doc, I know what you say in “The System” about women like Maddie, but I am just so in love with her. I know that what she’s doing with her husband is not what I want in a companion. If she does this sort of thing now, she might do it to me if we get together. But it’s just so hard to let go of someone you care about so much. She’s the first person I ever fell in love with. And when I say I fell in love with her, I fell hard. But it’s reciprocal -- she says she’s totally in love with me too. She was thinking about leaving her husband before she found out that she was pregnant and after only knowing me for a couple months. I strongly believe that one day Maddie’s going to be mine and we’re going to be together.

This thing is driving me crazy. I’d like your opinion. I need to know the truth, and you’re an expert in this area.

Diego - who can’t let her go

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DOC LOVE'S ANSWER

Hi Diego,

First of all, you have to read my book ONCE A WEEK FOR 15 WEEKS. Then you have to read SEVEN PAGES A NIGHT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE in order to absorb its full impact.

Now, as soon as you found out Maddie was married and you realized you were physically attracted to her, you should have immediately stopped talking to her. It’s like dealing with alcoholism: you can’t take the first drink. But you took it. Then you went and spent all kinds of time with a married woman. Are you sure you read my book? The System” says that the woman has to be AVAILABLE. To you Psych majors, married women aren’t available. Maddie’s not on the market. Don’t you get it, Diego?

Now let me get this straight. You think it’s fate to fall in love with a married woman? Do you think that’s a proper way to live? Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “There’s going to be a day of reckoning, my son.” You have to memorize “The System” and get past Maddie as soon as possible, because you’re wasting your time with her.

You didn’t do the right thing by telling Maddie’s husband everything you did. It was the WRONG thing to do. Who set you up as God, Diego? Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “You’re lucky the guy didn’t pull out a shotgun and blow your head off!” How dumb can you be? You should have called me for coaching before you started to fall for this married woman who’s not available and has a husband.

So, Maddie’s carrying her husband’s baby. In other words, the mess you’re in is going to get much messier! Now you have a pregnant girlfriend who already has a husband. Once a woman is pregnant with a child who belongs to someone else and you’re going to bed with her, you couldn’t be doing any more wrong. What do you mean it wasn’t intended? Her husband is the father, pal! They didn’t have to be drunk for it to happen. Do you really believe that goofy story Maddie told you? Have you ever thought that you’re getting played by Maddie and she’s having her cake and eating it too? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “Hey, she has two idiots in love with her.”

But you protest that you can’t stop talking to each other. The problem is that you have 100% Interest Level in this woman. The rule is that Interest Level cuts everything, but it doesn’t cut marriage and it doesn’t cut pregnancy. Are you going to marry Maddie and then raise her husband’s child, then have him come over and visit the kid? Do you really want to destroy a family? Where’s your morality, Diego? The truth is that you don’t even know Maddie. You have to be with a woman day and night for two years in order to really know her, and you and Maddie are just in la-la land at the gym!

Diego, your girlfriend has already betrayed her husband! She took her clothes off with someone who wasn’t her husband. Do you understand how serious that is? Marriage means that you can no longer fool around with anyone else on the face of the planet unless one of you dies!

What’s happened here is that your Interest Level has veered wildly out of control. “The System” says that it should be 80% to 89%, not somewhere in the high 90s. And it should be focused on a woman who doesn’t have a boyfriend or husband. And wow, I didn’t realize that if Maddie cheats on her husband, she just might cheat on you! Duh!

I know you fell hard, guy. That’s why you need to read “The System” 12 more times. And you have to drop this woman. You have to quit your gym and join another one somewhere else. You have to tell Maddie to stop calling you. And whenever she sends you a message, hit DELETE DELETE DELETE!

Diego, you’re playing with fire here and you don’t even realize it. GET AWAY NOW, BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE. This woman has two lovers, and you’re competing with her husband.

Remember, guys: if she’s married, she’s not available.

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