Dating Women Advice: Did Wilmer Valderrama Ever Have Trouble Finding The Right Girl?

NEVER HELD HANDS WITH A GIRL?

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Dating Women Podcast Episode 57

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READER'S QUESTION

Hey Doc,Growing up, I lived a very sheltered life: Most things were simply given to me, in return for a level of conformity that followed certain expectations. Throughout high school, I was essentially prohibited from being in a relationship (along with strict avoidance of drinking and partying -- yeah, those were fun years!) as I was led to believe that it would impede my education and career prospects. I’m 24 now, about to finally graduate from college with a career in law enforcement just on the horizon, which is yet another reason why I abstained from a lot when I was younger.

In all that time, I have never been in a committed relationship with someone. I mean, I haven’t even made it to holding hands with a woman. There’s just this deeply ingrained apprehension that prevents me from being romantic, and as hard as I try to “put myself out there,” I feel like women get an easy read on my lack of Confidence and inexperience. Now don’t get me wrong, most of my friends are actually female, but that’s about as far as it ever gets.

Many of my guy and girl friends tell me I’m not missing much, that anticipating finding love is simply setting myself up for disappointment. Most of them are bitter about their own bad experiences, and sometimes they do a pretty good job of convincing me to remain single.

Am I crazy? Now that I’m living by my own means, I’ve tried meeting women online, which has led to a few friendly coffee dates or concerts, but never more than that. Finding that spark of romance that goes beyond being good acquaintances (most of these girls just end up being my Facebook friends, ugh!) seems so out of reach. I’ve had advice ranging from “Be a jerk, have a few emotionless flings” to “Keep being genuine, the right girl is out there!” All I want is a meaningful connection with someone special, who can see past the fact that I’ve got some serious catching up to do. Is there any hope?

Roderick - who feels like a child

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DOC LOVE'S ANSWER

THE SYSTEM?

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Hi Roderick,

Consider this. You’re going into law enforcement with a college degree, which I congratulate you on. But look at the amount of time you’ve spent on your career, while you’ve spent no time whatsoever studying “The System.” You’ve spent several years obtaining a degree so that you’ll do very well in the vocation of protecting people – certainly an admirable and honorable profession – but you could have been studying my materials as well. You’re qualified to be in law enforcement, but you’re not qualified to be with any woman, and that’s what memorizing my book would have done for you. In other words, you never had the chance to experience the transformative power of “The System.”

Your problem, Roderick, is that you have no product knowledge. You try to talk to women, you know that they’re different from you, but you don’t know how they’re different. As a result. you don’t know what to do with them. Think of it this way. You were deeply puzzled when you were first confronted by having to use a computer. But after a few months, you know your way around it like an expert. And that’s because you now have product knowledge of the computer. But you have absolutely no product knowledge of women.

It’s true that women get an easy read on your lack of Confidence and inexperience because they are very intuitive. They sense that you don’t know how to properly communicate and approach a relationship with them due to your lack of experience and education in the area of starting and handling relationships.

Dude, you don’t want female friends! You have buddies – men. To you Psych majors, as far as women go, you only want to date them, you don’t want them as pals.

It’s not true that seeking love is only setting yourself up for disappointment. My students do very well with women. Guys who devote themselves to “The System” end up finding great women. And they all came to me just like you. Some guys know 50% of what to do and I give them the other 50%. Some know 20% and I give them the other 80%. In your case, you know nothing, so I will give you the whole enchilada – the entire 100%. True, you will have to study harder than some other guys. But as soon as you get “The System,” your personality will come out and women will see what a great guy you are.

So forget the naysayers who want you to believe that there can be no success in love. Listen to me, and only to me – I’m the Love Doctor. The others don’t know what they’re talking about.

You might be meeting some women online, but you don’t know how to talk to them. When you talk to guys you get along fine. You get along fine in your career. You live on your own and you take care of yourself. You know all about life, but you know absolutely nothing about women. The reason that you’re not getting past coffee dates is that you’re boring and predictable and you don’t know how to talk to women. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You’re not fun and you don’t make them laugh -- so why would they want to go out with you?”

And that’s why I’m here, Roderick – I’m here to train you. In addition to “The System,” there is also THE DOC LOVE CLUB RADIO SHOW and THE MASTERY SERIES. There is a ton of information and support at your disposal. After you immerse yourself in my materials, I guarantee that women will never look at you the same way again. But you have a lot of homework to do. And remember, “friendship” is the biggest insult in the world. That’s exactly what you DON’T want from a woman. You want an actual girlfriend!

Yes, there’s hope for you, pal. But I’m the only one who can show you how to catch up – no one else can.

Remember, guys: you don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate.

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