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Dating Women Podcast Episode 24


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"What Great Salesmen Do That Will Coach You To Meet And Keep Ms. Right."

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Part 1 talks about why you need to love rejection and failure to have a chance and part 2 teaches you to believe you're the best.

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WHAT'S THE 411 ON THIS ARTICLE?

He spent too much time with her and now is getting NO time - find out why below.

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READER'S QUESTION

Hey Doc,

My girlfriend Gigi and I have been dating for five months now. Everything up to this point -- everything -- has been perfect. We have definitely been hanging out too much, though – five days a week, at least -- but this has been mutual, with Gigi asking me to hang out four of the five days. When we first started dating, she told me that nursing school, which is where she just started, was going to be a very tough time for us both and she forewarned me that she was going to be very emotional and sometimes very cold.

Well, last week Gigi got her nursing school syllabus and it showed that she needs to do a lot of work. At that point she started to get a little cold towards me. She texted one of my friends and told him that for some reason she was becoming annoyed by me, that even little things I did were driving her insane.

I went to Chicago for four days and Gigi was very cold while I was gone. I backed off and only talked to her if she made the effort first. She did text me every day and I would be very short, but at least I responded. She told my friend that she was enjoying the space, but that she was feeling very annoyed lately due to her job, bills and school. She said she felt awful because she was taking all of this pressure out on our relationship. She also told him that with her school schedule she feels she needs to see me less, maybe only one or two days a week and that she even thinks this will really benefit our relationship.

Doc, is it too late to build Gigi’s interest back up? She is still planning things in advance with me and I think I just may need to back off a little and give her some space. She hasn’t mentioned anything specifically to me about needing space, but only needing to see each other less during school. Am I overreacting? If I back off, will we be okay?

Glen - who doesn’t know how he screwed up

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DOC LOVE'S ANSWER

Hi Glen,

I don’t care if the girl asks you to move in with her – YOU JUST DON’T DO IT. If she asks to see you more -- and in the process you slaughter Challenge -- tell her that you have work to do or that you’re studying or that you’re busy. You should be seeing this girl no more than twice a week. To you Psych majors, just because she thinks she wants you around all the time and okays it doesn’t mean it’s right. And another thing, Glen. We date women, we don’t “hang out” with them.

When Gigi told you that she was going to be distant and cold when she started school, right there you had to back off and let her make all of the dates. But again, only accept two dates out of the seven days of the week, because on account of all this togetherness, Gigi is telling you indirectly that her Interest Level is dropping.

Now let me explain something to you, guy. The fact that Gigi is going to have a tough time with nursing school has nothing whatsoever to do with her Interest Level in you. They are two separate issues. But she’s attempting to use it to tell you -- without coming right out and saying it -- that her interest has taken a dive. When she gets cold towards you, you have to back right off for two or three days.

The reason that the little things you do are driving Gigi insane is because her Interest Level is dropping. And Gigi is casting nursing school and its pressures as the problem, but that really has nothing to do with what’s going on between the two of you. Again, one has nothing to do with the other. Remember, ONLY YOU CAN RAISE OR LOWER INTEREST LEVEL. So nursing school has nothing to do with anything. You’re not following “The System,” which is the core of your problem here.

When you travelled to Chicago you finally backed off when Gigi went cold, which was smart, but you should have been doing it since day one of your relationship. Gigi doesn’t really know what she thinks she’s taking out on the relationship. Jobs, bills and school don’t lower Interest Level – only YOU lower Interest Level. So she’s totally confused about what’s going on here.

But she’s 100% correct that seeing each other less will help your relationship. But you should have had my book and done this since the very beginning, as I said before. Glen, you know nothing about the concept of space and you know nothing whatsoever about Challenge.

Is it too late to build Gigi’s interest back up? If it’s between 51% and 60% it can be done by BACKING OFF. But you have to memorize my book, and you have to let Gigi chase you, and then turn her down when she wants to see you so often. In other words, YOU have to regulate the flow of togetherness since she’s going to nursing school and she’s busy and under pressure. If she’s still planning things in advance, her interest must be above 50%, so there is hope for you. But seeing each other less is the same thing as SPACE, Glen, so you’re contradicting yourself and you don’t know what you’re talking about.

It appears that you and Gigi will be okay. But when she tries to make a date, don’t accept over two a week. And you have to remember that when she starts complaining to friends, you have real problems. You’re irritating this girl in addition to the fact that she has a job, bills and school. You’re not going by “The System,” pal, and that’s the real issue here. My book would solve all of these problems, but you haven’t cracked it.

Remember, guys: when you “hang out” with a girl, you’re seeing her too often.

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