Dating in the 2010’s is more complex and complicated than ever – and single women have more options than ever – but I’m going to give you a mix of Smartphone technology with rotary phone common sense (remember those? if not, hit up Google!) to tell you 3 things that you need to know when approaching and trying to date these elusive ladies!
#1: They Don’t ‘Need’ A Man But Many Still ‘Want’ A Man Women are making more money than ever, are gaining more and more economic freedom and many are at the top levels of our society in terms of money, power and prestige. I’m all for this and have zero issue with career women or ladies that make it happen to keep the US Economy rolling. It’s not 1955 where she has little options beyond the secretarial pool and it totally dependent on finding a man – and again, this is a good thing.
However, economics meets biology and there are still a lot of ladies out there that want a REAL man to come home to – just as you want a kind, flexible and giving woman to come home to.
It’s easy to take those snippets of women that get the headlines looking for a sperm donor so they don’t have to end up with a guy but the reason they make the “what’s trending” part of your news feed is because I believe they’re the exception rather than the rule – there are still a lot of great women out there that are smart, motivated, kind, flexible, giving and yes, they want you – as long as you’re a strong gentleman that is strong enough to say no once in a while but secure enough to be sensitive too (at the right times).
Today’s lady wants a mixture of Cro-Magnon man that also has a softer, intelligent side – just like it’s been since the dawn of time!
#2: You Don’t Have To Be Anything But Yourself – The Best Version Of Yourself Today’s woman is more smart and motivated than ever so the lady you really want to end up with (the one I described above) is not going to fall for lines or BS. Oh sure, I’m not naive – I know there are the “players” out there that have the Handsome Harry looks and prowl the clubs looking for their next conquest but I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT ONE NIGHT STANDS HERE – I’m talking about building a real relationship (by the way, I’m not making a moral judgment on the one night stand guys – I’m just stating that the focus of what I teach is on long-term relationships).
If you’re really going to interest the woman that you should end up with then be yourself – don’t be a line machine – but also be the BEST version of yourself. If “yourself” is to not dress well, have bad teeth, not groom yourself, be uptight, or any other bad qualities, then you need to clean those up.
Before you get all over me saying that “I don’t want a superficial woman” then slow your roll right there – NEWS FLASH – were all superficial with our initial attraction.
She’ll never get to know the real you if she’s turned off by your 45 degree angled front tooth – just like you wouldn’t like her if you were attracted to athletic women and she happened to be morbidly obese – we like what we like and women are no different.
So, be you – don’t try to be the next guy – but be the best you that you can be and remember to always TALK to her intelligently and REALLY LISTEN. Dating single women in the 2010’s is a marathon and not a sprint – you want to get to know her over time because you might be spending 40 years with her tough guy!
#3: She’s Got The New School Toys & The Old School Brain She might have all the latest gadgets, can make your head spin about all sorts of stuff that she does in her career and have an outwardly impressive appearance (because who else would you be attracted to?) but the old laws of dating that have been around since Oog was trying to impress the future Mrs. Oog with his Mastadon kill still apply.
My dating and relationship course entitled THE SYSTEM gives you A TON OF STRATEGIES but just keep this in mind to start you on the road to success: Do not rush into rejection.
Women these days are more impressive than ever and many men think they have to over-sell, over-communicate and keep in her face – but back to prehistoric days she doesn’t want a guy that hasn’t had a date in 10 years – and that’s how you’ll come across if you’re trying to text, tweet, Snapchat and Facebook 43x in the first 3 dates. SLOW down and let her get to know you. If she’s really interested in you then she can’t be rejecting you as long as you let her come to you. Believe me when I tell you that she’ll let you know if she’s into you because women help you when they like you.
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