Should I Text Her? 3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO

Technology is changing – human nature isn’t. When considering tapping out a quick message on your iPhone 6+ (because the screen is so big and it’s so easy!) then consider the 3 reasons below why it’s a bad idea to stay in constant contact with her.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#1: Body Language & Tone Are Out The Window

If you’re sitting right across from her you can tell your stories in such a way they come off humorous and light & see her reaction. You get instant feedback on your interaction – because you’re in the real world face to face with her.

Over text you lose that human to human interaction – and it’s a clunky way to have a conversation. It’s impossible to keep your fingers moving as fast as you can move your vocal cords and you really have no idea what impact your words had until the next text rolls in. Compare that to INSTANTLY seeing her eyes light up with your funny joke.

Also, you have to explain yourself too much in texts – especially if you don’t know her that well because you want to make sure she’s interpreting your commentary in the right way – you don’t want her to be insulted by something you’re kidding about, right? In person with your body language, tone of voice and the way you deliver things she can instantly know where you’re coming from – but in texts you have to overload the “LOL’s,” “J/K’s” and smiley faces to make the point that it’s a joke sometimes.

No matter what, a conversation via text is a bad look because there is so LITTLE feedback you can get for your words versus real world conversation.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#2: Want Her To Think You Have No Life?

She wants you to text her after the date to make sure “you got home safely” or likes hearing from you when she wakes up or enjoys taking a break in the middle of the day to read your texts. Aren’t life and love grand? Who knew that $100 a month you spent on your Smart Phone was the key to getting her to fall in love with her?

It isn’t.

I love chocolate ice cream and when I’m really hungry for it I can eat the whole half-gallon but on the rare occasions I do something that dumb my stomach resembles a drunken brawl among rival sports fans. Even though I love chocolate ice cream and THOUGHT I WANTED to eat the whole half-gallon I really didn’t.

Same with her – she THINKS SHE WANTS a guy to constantly communicate with her as he lavishes her with attention 160 characters at a time but in reality she’ll get sick of you texting just as my stomach got sick of having Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie poured into it.

Should I Text Her?  3 Reasons Why The Answer Is NO#3: Can You Do This For 40 Years?

Okay, let’s just say you have a really insecure girl and she loves the fact that you text her all day long – because it’s validation of your undying love. You’re more than happy to oblige because it’s so cute she wants all this attention – and man, that long hair, those beautiful eyes , her soft voice as she laughs – how could you not want to stay in contact with this angel?

I’m here to tell you that’s it’s all fun and games until your orthopedic surgeon gleefully exclaims “New Porsche for me!” as he’s looking over your carpal tunnel. Okay, maybe not to that extreme but can you imagine having your HTC One be your electronic leash for the next 6 months, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 40 years???? Because that’s what it will be. Once you start the texting habit you won’t be able to go back.

Believe me when I tell you what once was “cute” will become a mind-numbing chore as you pass the 2,000,000 text mark quicker than you get to your silver anniversary.

There’s really only one of two ways to go with texting – either you have a woman with normal to high self-esteem that will get sick of your texting and drop you or you’ll get a low self-esteem type to constantly need a text “hit” from you as you rapidly dream of a day where you can sink your phone in the nearest body of water!

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Ryan - 5 December 2017 Reply

I read The System, and for over a year I’ve been trying to apply it. I’ve waited the 5-9 days to setup a date and tried to avoid texting like this article says. It works well for me for the first couple dates but after 3-4 dates, interest starts to die off. My friends say I’m not communicating with her enough BETWEEN the dates to let her into my life more, and texting/calling should naturally increase while dating her more often. I know I need to be a challenge and let her come to me, but should I ever transition to talking to her more often, not just on a date?

    DocLove - 7 December 2017 Reply

    The bottom line is that texting too much is a telephone blunder – the central part of THE SYSTEM ( as you know is CHALLENGE and MYSTERY. If you are a CHALLENGE then you are a MYSTERY and a girl who is not structured will naturally like you more when you are a MYSTERY to her. It’s impossible to be a CHALLENGE and MYSTERY when they have access to your Smartphone all the time. I wonder if there isn’t something else you’re doing to turn them off? Or perhaps you are with the wrong ones? I think you should call the show (get the numbers at to describe your dates. I suspect you’re blaming lack of texting for another issue because a CLINICALLY SANE woman that’s a FLEXIBLE GIVER with HIGH INTEREST LEVEL is not going to blow you off for lack of texts – she’s going to patiently wait and try to amp up her game to get you. If you wish to be more private please order phone coaching at

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