I know where you’re not going to meet women – staring at the football game or having a game controller in your hand – yes, you can meet women online and it’s a great place to start but I’ll give you 3 additional ways to encounter them in the real world below.
I wrote a full article about speed dating with specific tips for success here but let me just give you the basics in case you don’t feel like clicking to another article at the moment. The events are usually in a nice bar/restaurant with an even amount of age-matched men and women (for example, 25-34) and the men move around the room like musical chairs every 3-8 minutes chatting up the women that are usually sitting in some kind of circle around the location.
Each person has some kind of name tag or identifier and at the end of the evening you turn in the women that you’re interested in to the organizers and the women do the same. If there’s a match then you’re given each other’s contact information and it’s on you at that point.
I love the efficiency of speed dating because the cost is moderate but still enough (usually $30-$50) that the women showing up are serious about finding someone. Most ladies that pay $30-$50 and take time out of their schedules to come to a bar/restaurant to have a new guy talk to them every 3-8 minutes are there for a purpose.
If you’re attending any of the above with the specific purpose of meeting women then FORGET IT. These types of things are great places to meet women in a low key fashion and get to know them over time and there should be some rapport that builds as you proceed because you’re both sharing a common interest and it’s a non-threatening way to get to know women.
However, if you’re going to commit time and/or money then do something you’ll personally get something out of. You may not meet anyone so you should get SOME kind of benefit for your investment and if you have zero interest or dislike the subject but you think that “it’ll be good for you because women will be there” then you’ll fail because the women you do meet will see your disdain at some point.
When you do encounter the ladies at these events, don’t blow your chances!
I put sales into dating – great salespeople always have their antennas up. For example, a salesperson is in line at the coffee shop and starts chatting with someone at random and finds out they have a business with “x, y and z” challenges that the salesperson has a solution for – so what do they do? They gently push the conversation to what they can do for the person and they exchange information in hopes of a meeting.
You have to think the same way – scan for opportunities when out doing your normal thing. Now, you won’t always be in line with a beautiful single lady just like the salesperson isn’t always going to be in line with a business owner that happens to have a need for their product but you have to always be ready and be willing to talk!
When you do talk, make sure to come off as best you can – this article will give you strategies to increase your odds of success.
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